Anyone else find TikTok super triggering?

[missjubilant]

I get major anxiety around relationships in general anyway, but TikTok and other social media is just awful.

I have a really loving boyfriend, but it always makes me second guess myself. For example I see a video about how lovely someone’s boyfriend was, but then they find out they were cheating or watching porn or looking at other women.
And all the comments are the same:
”if your partner tells you he doesn’t look at other women, he’s lying”
”they don’t stop; they just get better at hiding it”
“all boys do it”
”I thought mine was different until I checked his phone”
”mine was amazing until I searched his history”

And it’s every single comment. Which makes me believe my boyfriend must be the same, must hide things really well etc. I have no reason to doubt my boyfriend but that just makes me think he must be sneaky.

It’s honestly doing me in. And there’s so many. I don’t want to delete TikTok because I use it for make up tips etc but I know that’s the obvious answer.

Does anyone feel the same??

I have refused to get tiktok because it's just another app I'll end up doom scrolling. I think with the algorithm on there, when you've viewed something of that ilk, it will then show you more of the same. Remember a lot of these videos are for clout. Doesn't mean any of it's real. Internet is not real life.

Take a social media break, it's done wonders for me. Take care.

I don't look at other men. I can see when one is objectively attractive
Good one

Why would I feel the need to lie to a bunch of anonymous strangers 😆

Same. For me it's all in the interaction.

I think the kindest thing to do for yourself is to delete and stop watching something that hurts. It's like a gift to yourself, you don't need this pain- remove yourself from it.
My mental health has improved sooooo much since I've cut out Instagram, YouTube shorts and tiktok, anytime I'm tempted to look- I just say to myself 'i value my happiness and inner peace more than any of these peoples videos' and do something else xx

You're still looking at them!

For the love of god just delete it.
You have acknowledged that it is having a very negative affect on you and your relationship. Why would you not just get rid of it.
Tik Tok is not a necessary part of anyones life.
There are plenty of other places to learn new stuff.

It's not compulsary. If you don't like it, or it makes you feel bad, then get rid of it. You added it, and you can delete it.

If it's causing issues for you, don't prioritise one of many sources of make up tips over your mental health.

Bullshit @AllOfThemWitches

Not saying you would ever act on that, but everyone has those thoughts. They're fleeting and normal - healthy even - and it doesn't mean anyone is cheating.

OP is clearly struggling with anxiety and insecurities and not being utterly honest isn't going help her.

Well ok but I feel the same as I would about an 'attractive' woman ('how nice to be so good-looking') and I'm straight. Definitely no sexual attraction.

Lmao are you OK hun? Again, I don't feel the need to lie... what would be my motive?

Don't look at the For You page. No need to delete entirely. But only go to Following and obviously only follow creators who are not triggering ie make-up etc.

Get perspective and stop looking so much on SM. You are not going to see "my man is lovely, never looks at porn, so I checked, and he really doesn't" there's obviously no story in men doing the right things in life, you just see one side.