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Past abuse triggering me in current relationship

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Icansayit · 03/05/2023 20:27

I am currently having therapy for all my issues but I’m still finding it hard.

I was severely emotionally abused as a child. A couple of instances of physical abuse.

I am getting triggered in my current relationship and it’s so upsetting. I know it’s not anyone’s fault but it’s almost as if I have no control over it sometimes the slightest thing will trigger off how I felt as a child and I have this instant horrific reaction and break down.

Is this something therapy will eventually help? I feel so so unhappy

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pompypomppomp · 03/05/2023 20:35

Yes, therapy is exactly what you need. You'll struggle to let go of this in all parts of your life u til you confront it, and thus let go of the pain. Please ensure you're with the right person too, he needs to be patient and understanding or you won't recover. Good luck ❤️

Icansayit · 03/05/2023 20:39

I’m just so shocked how awful the reaction feels 😞

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pompypomppomp · 03/05/2023 20:44

It takes you right back, and you'll feel exactly the same as when you first suffered the abuse. Even minor things set off a full panic mode. I've been there, a year of therapy has let me function again. I'm hoping a few more years will get me back to normal. You're not alone

pompypomppomp · 03/05/2023 20:45

It sounds like you have ptsd, getting validation for this from a therapist also helps. If you can afford that, don't bother with nhs mental health services, they just triggered me more and never gave me any actual help.

Icansayit · 03/05/2023 20:51

It’s just been awful , I do think it’s ptsd

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