When is right to let kids know?

[Blushingm]

DP and I have been together a year. My DC are 16 & 21 and I've been sleeping lot from their dad for 7 years this summer.

DP dc are 10 & 13 but he's only been split from their mum for 18 months. He moved out, rented for a year and now has his own house so they've had quite a bit of up heaval. His exw knows me & him are together and my kids do too (though they've not met him yet). I'm just wondering when we should let his kids know (I don't mean meet them, just that they know their dad is seeing someone)

I’m just wonder when we should let his kids know

There is no “we” in this scenario.

Only your boyfriend should have a say in when he tells them. He should do this when he is confident that the relationship will go the distance, and when he knows his kids are at the stage where they can handle such news.

We've been discussing it so I said 'we' but I completely agree it's his decision

I worry they've had so much change recently. I don't want to meet them yet or anything like that. My kids haven't met him either