DH and I have been together 10 years, married for 7. 3 dc’s aged between 8 and 3.5 years. I’m currently sahm (I’d like to work but difficult finding something that fits around dc3 nursery, he gets extra support so can’t really move him as the support he gets isn’t available at other nurseries where we live). DH works full time, 4 days per week from home. He’s happy with this and has no interest in working more from the office. His desk is in our front room so due to layout / size of house we are together all day every day minus when I go out / do school runs etc. He rarely leaves the house Mon-Fri.
I’m really unhappy, I feel there is no love in our marriage and we are coexisting. We haven’t had sex for 2 years. We go to bed at different times, if we had the space I’d sleep separately. DH is good with dc but I do all childcare / activities / appointments etc which I know isn’t uncommon. When I worked this was still the case. I do majority of housework. I feel incredibly resentful as rarely get time away from dc yet I give DH space. He’s very thoughtful but can be incredibly tight at the same time which I hate. I’ve mentioned to my mum and she thinks I’m overtired and have lots going on (dc3 has additional needs and it’s been a battle to get the support he needs).
Is this normal when you have young kids? I’m not expecting things to be like they were pre children but it seems so Groundhog Day. I don’t want to be with anyone else, I’m quite happy with my own company so it isn’t that