Opinions please

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Hi everyone

I'm just looking for some opinions please .

There's this man who basically I have fallen head over heels for for the past two years. He feels the same too but things are complicated so apart from meeting up a few times a week nothing can be committed yet .

He has said all the normal things when two people like each other but what he said this weekend has gotten me thinking more about it than I would like to admit.

He asked me why I like him and want to spend time with him so I said it's because I just feel so comfortable around him and how well we get on.

I then asked him why he likes me and he replied with I thought you were cute.

I don't know why this is bugging me so much . I'm in my 30s and always classed cute as you would a child .

I know I should just ask him what he means by it but I don't want to come across as petty.

I was looking for more of an answer like mine which was he enjoys spending time with me .

Just want to know if him saying cute is a good or bad thing . I did reply with saying well Thankyou and laughing . He just kept smiling . Arghhhhhh can't believe how pathetic I have become .

Thankyou all so much

Sorry to sound harsh, I just think he sounds like he likes you but isn't hugely into you, as much as you are.

Yeah it’s not the best compliment for a grown woman to receive is it? Anything re physical looks doesn’t really say the right things. But at least ‘beautiful’ might have connotations of a beautiful soul as well as face/body. Cute is the physical version of ‘nice’. It’s just ok. I would take that as a bit of an insult in this situation tbh. If that’s the best thing he can find to say about you he’s not that into you. Find a less complicated situation with someone who values you for who you are, not just your sweet face.

He feels the same too but things are complicated so apart from meeting up a few times a week nothing can be committed yet .

Is he married?

He's saying he feels the same but, if after two years there is no commitment and he can't say any more than he thinks you're cute, I don't think you're going to end up with the happy ever after you'd like. Actions not words.

I said it's because I just feel so comfortable around him

Sounds like you're both less than enthusiastic. He thinks you're cute, like a puppy. You think he's comfortable, like a pair of slippers.

I'd understand "comfortable around you" to mean relaxed, and see that as a positive thing, especially in combination with "getting on well" - so not as bad as "comfortable old slippers" - but it still isn't "because I think you're an amazing person and I love you so much", is it?

"I thought you were cute" (past tense) is the answer to "Why did you ask me out?", though, not to "Why do you like me?" (present tense). Odd answer.

I don't know what barometer you want to use with regard to leading a happy life, but usually, if something makes you unhappy, it scores low, and if something makes you happy, it scores high.

What we think is irrelevant: we're not you. There is no external way to measure if a comment is good or bad for you than how if feels for you, and if something makes you feel negative in any way, then that's your answer.