Feel like a single parent when I'm not

[yvonneb13]

Exactly as the title says me and DH have a 12 week old baby and I seem to do everything he barley helps out with night feeds he come and goes as he pleases like WE went on a night on last night and HES still sleeping at this time when me I was up at half 7 with the baby I've just tried to wake him up for help and he's told me to fuck off im livid. I'm actually close to ending it so fucking angry sorry your kid is getting in the way of your sleep.

Is telling you to fuck off normal for him?

Because it's absolutely something I'd leave for.

Sometimes yes he is someone who swears a lot like every second word he can fuck I'll look after baby myself arsehole

Swearing is one thing. I swear. Swearing AT someone is different. And he swore at you. And that's after spending all that time sleeping in when you were awake.

I know I'm livid I feel like I hate him right now. He is still sleeping is bloody 3.30pm in the afternoon night or not he needs to pull his shit together.

Was he like this pre kid?

Have you left him alone with the baby and ust let him get on with it?

Tbh no I haven't not got longer than about an hour.

Have you discussed it with him when neither of you are pissed off?

Told him exactly what your expectations are and what will happen if he doesn't stop being a prick?

I haven't tbh I have just got on with it. But it's something I definitely have to do because I'm sick of it.

I would try to talk with him about it. Was he rude to you just because he was tired or does he just speak like that all the time?

Could it be stress related with the new baby? Did you both plan the baby? I'm only asking as I was in your situation a few months ago.

DP & I have been together 9 years and now have a seven month old. At first when she was born he was always there to help up until dd was about 4 months old.

He then went about his day, work then home expecting me to cook tea and look after dd all day/night as he had been at work all day. I stupidly let this go on for a while but one day hit breaking point.

I had been quiet/distant for a few days so he knew something was up. Then he'd asked for the third day in a row and I just screamed at him 'I just want you to spend time with your fucking daughter'. I think that's when it hit him and he's been helping ever since.

I know he loves dd and does enjoy spending time with her as I have seen now over the past few months, but I think he just needed a reality check. He went from his mums getting everything done for him to mines and I still do all the cooking, washing, etc so he just assumed my life was fine and I didn't want his help with dd. HAHA!

But I highly recommend discussing your feelings with him and getting his opinion too to see if there's an issue or it's just laziness.