Mil giving me her old used bras.

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Hi all need peoples opinions on this..
So when I was early on in my pregnancy my ex mil rang me we were having a conversation about my pregnancy I mentioned that my bras were getting tighter now. Then 2 days later she knocked at our door my ex partner was in the shower she came in and handed me her old used bras in a sandwich bag. I was lost for words she put them on the bench I didn’t know what to say. I felt like she was trying to offend me in some way in no way did I try and make out that I needed her to bring me a bra because mine were getting tight. I found this very weird. A year and a half later I’ve realised how toxic she is she doesn’t bother with my child and just likes to play little games.
Any one’s opinions on this?

I’m trying to get my head round the idea of bras so tiny you can fit several into a sandwich bag.

by toxic I mean before I was pregnant she never used to speak to me when she came to my partners she used to drop something off for my partner I used to say hello and she would totally ignore me and look me up and down. And the list goes on..

You just don't like her. That's fine, but it's not about bras.

I just don’t like her? I’m what part of this have I said I don’t like her. I have just stated above that I tried with her the other way around I think

Me too 😂

Op, if she’s been mean to you then of course don’t have anything to do with her or her old bras. The bra thing, yes it can be weird, but it depends on what she was thinking. I doubt she was thinking about sex or anything like that. You told her your bras were tight so she brought you some of hers (in a sandwich bag? How?) so you wouldn’t have to spend money on something you would likely not need after pregnancy. That’s probably all it was. Nobody can read malicious intent in something like I can 😃 but I can’t see how this can be construed as playing a little game.

But, if she is hateful to you in addition to that, then don’t talk to her. Don’t give her any personal info.

This response is fucking brilliant.

As a side note I hate buying new clothes - environmental issues - and if I wore bras (tiny tits - don't need to) at all I would cheerfully wear second hand ones!

This sounds like something my MIL would do. Intentionally overstepping boundaries in ways that people immediately jump to defend as "she was only trying to help haha". Yeah fuck that she knows what she's doing and wanted to creep you out. Mine tried to give me her shoes at my wedding as I was about to go into the registry office. Because making an actual dig at my wedding shoes would have been too obvious but by trying to give me hers she was "only trying to help".

Yes exactly playing the Good Samaritan but in reality she is toxic this is what I’m getting at she brought me them but she wasn’t very nice to me. It was just a general conversation ‘ ahh everything’s getting tighter now ‘ doesn’t mean I need her second hand ones.

Smile, wave and recycle them. Or wash them and return them in 6 months time saying they are now too big for you.