Following a suggestion on 'Things we have learned' thread...

[MeImAllSmiles]

one suggestion was to have sex, if you have sex the more you want it, the more they will want you. Will this work for me and h. He is very controlling, blanks me, doesn't look at me, touch me, kiss me. However, he did want sex yesterday and i spurned him, so it sounds very teenagerish but, do you think if I sleep with him he will 'warm' to me?

erm, may be a bit more to it than that, but what do I know.

do you never talk about such things? Your OP reveals a blank canvass.

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He won't talk to me about anything to do with our relationship, says I'm bombarding him if I ask questions.

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Dior, he does have lots of problems from previous marriages and seems to be taking them out on me. On top of that I have his three children and my two living together, lots of pressure there.

I wouldn't have sex with somene who treated me like that. Don't do it. You're not a prostitute.

Wineistheway, as far as I can tell he can't show any affection/love towards me as he has to be in control, can't open himself up to be let down again, according to my relate counsellor.

Colditz, yeah it does smack of that doesn't it. I have slept with him for two weeks now and I know he is getting desperate. I am just clutching at straws, I want this man to love and respect me, I adore him but he just won't let me in. I have done nothing but love him, look after his children, support him in his work. I can never get an answer out of him.

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no, i don't want to stay with him like this but I would like him to get help and maybe turn things around.

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