I love him but the sexlessness is awful

[Flowersingrass]

I wrote this earlier but by accident I put it in the wrong place. By accident I wrote it in the pregnancy forum instead of the relationships forum.

Flowersingrass · Today 09:11

I met my partner a number of years ago. We got on very well. However today, we are in a completely sexless relationship. We are a couple in our 30s and 40s and we might as well be in our 80s. There is no sexual intimacy any more between us. The most I am going to get is a bit of a flick on the clit from him and in recent months I am pulling away. I don't want to make any effort with him any more when there's nothing back in return from him. You see he cannot maintain an erection for intercourse and its been like that for a number of years. He won't help himself. I think he watches porn. I can't believe he would choose porn over the real thing with me. But now, I am sick of the lazy 'lovemaking' I don't even try any more with him or even in the bed. I think the last time I gave him a blowjob I came away thinking I will never do that again because it led me nowhere except for him having a death grip on his cock.

I woke up this morning, horny.
Instead of trying anything on with him, I got up for breakfast. I am just so sick of the sexless relationship between us.

I had to go to the doctor last week for hemorrhoids and I was secretly more excited with my GP poking my bum to investigate the hemorrhoids because that will be the only action I am going to get all year. How sad is that?

Why is her choosing porn over me and our relationship?
Why is he choosing not to get Viagra and leaving our relationship sexless. Is it some sort of an ego or pride thing.

This relationship is so boring. I don't have a sex life anymore.
I would prefer to sleep or cook food or do laundry than to have any sort of sexy times with the Mr.

Excited by the GP? This is so wrong🤢

This was not written buy a woman. Can it be taken down please?

@sofasofa42 my thoughts exactly.

Sexually aroused by your gp examining piles?

No dry spell between dh and I is long enough for me to find that an appealing prospect for my sexual kicks. So inappropriate in that setting too.

@mumsnet . Please. This post is sick

I agree with us.

I would prefer to sleep or cook food or do laundry than to have any sort of sexy times with the Mr

Sexy times with the Mr🙄😀.

Dude, women don’t talk or write like this.

What’s your agenda here? Do you want replies from the sexually frustrated women on MN?

And, just so you know, “a flick on the clit” is 🤮. Don’t do this

I feel for your op.

@mumsnet perhaps talk to the op before taking it down.

In my experience it doesn't get any better. If they aren't prepared to help themselves you're at nothing unfortunately.

I was in a sexless relationship at 39. It dragged on for a few years, nothing changed so I left. For the past year and a half I'm having the best, filthiest sex of my life.

If my post reads like a man is writing it I'm happy for HQ to get in touch to confirm I'm not by sending a selfie. Although at this time on a bank holiday it might be up for debate with no makeup on and my hair scraped back 😁

Its not the sexless marriage that makes the OP sounds like a man. It's the describing being excited to have their anus poked by the gp and seeing a the type if medical examination most people dread as "action"

It's a gp visit, not a porn scene.

@NoItsNotAndNeverWillBe I think it was said to highlight how they're getting so little action. Nothing more.

It's written in the style of a man, strange wording, and also puts the wrong pronoun in "her chosing porn over me". Also, GP's would not feel the need or want to poke around people's haemorrhoids, a description would suffice and there are over-the-counter remedies that are very effective, so the scenario seems suspect. If however, all remedies have been tried to no avail, and surgery is the only option, then they might do a referral for that if it's affecting quality of life for someone.
Overall, put together, it looks maybe a bit far-fetched.