Window at night - big argument at 4am - views?

[AminaJ]

Wondering if window preferences at night are a cause of conflict for any other couples??

At night, I like a bit of air to get in through the window - I find it stuffy otherwise and I get hot at night. My husband doesn't like the curtains open, so i arrange them so they're slightly open in one corner, to let the air in. He has seemed ok with that so far.

Last night, it was very hot in the room, so I made the corner opening of the curtain a bit bigger (about 4x4 inches in total).

At 4am, my husband stormed out of bed, stomped across the room and whipped the curtains shut. He said he didn't want to be able to see outside, nor people to see in. I said he was being paranoid, because we're on the 3rd floor, it's a quiet street, it's dark, and it was only open a small amount in the corner.

At this, he started shouting very loudly, saying I was being unreasonable. He compared me to my mum (who he knows can nag my dad sometimes). He was shouting so loud that, although it's an old building with thick walls, I was worried the neighbours would be woken up, and it was 4am.

Do others have the window open - or argue about it? And is it that weird to have the curtain open a bit?

And yes an eye mask solves the darkness issue. I use one when it gets lighter in the mornings and for daytime naps!

He was prob annoyed to be woken by this. And reacted badly due to frustration. I can do that if woken from a deep sleep .

id be really annoyed if my husband was opening the window and the curtains like that. I couldn’t sleep with it either. However neither of us would like it so no issues. I think uou may need separate rooms.

Separate bedrooms is the only way. I like to sleep as though I'm in a coffin. Absolutely PITCH black and windows shut. My ex husband liked light streaming in ( streetlights and then sun light from dawn) and windows flung open. We tried taking it in turns having put preference on alternate nights but we couldn't cope. On top of that he snored like a mountain bear. Separate rooms did the trick. Until we divorced haha

Shouting isn't cool, but air can get through closed curtains. I'd hate to have them open.

Barring gales we always have the bedroom window open at night, summer and winter. The curtains are closed . Plenty of air circulating.

I dated someone once who had the window and curtains open - the dawn chorus and sun Ros is lovely at 4am but not when you've gone to sleep at 11pm and his snoring was already waking you up every so often. The relationship didn't last long.