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Does your husband try to see things through your eyes? Point of view..

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Forgoodnesssakemeagain · 30/04/2023 13:38

I’m struggling to sort this out in my head..
if I say something that’s a problem or whatever and my husband says it’s not a problem for me should that be an end to it or should there be some sort of empathy or adjustment for my point of view?
ranges from silly examples - me saying put the umbrella in the car and him saying no as he doesn’t think it will rain to me saying he’s being a bit moody to saying slow down a bit driving.
sp for the rain if then I say well I think it may do and put it in myself then comes an argument of why his opinion doesn’t matter or an eye roll.
the driving one is because I have been in a serious car accident and get anxious but he takes it a criticism of his driving and says we are safe..
it’s hard to explain but I always get how he feels. He often says I am over reacting but I have said but that’s how I feel if I feel annoyed at him or something - if he can’t see why it’s an over reaction from me.
not sure I’m explaining this well!

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ruddygreattiger · 01/05/2023 15:31

Yep, my ex reduced all of my opinions into a 'debate' (his words) which was actually him talking at me until I gave in. Even small, petty, unimportant stuff had to dissected to make him right.
It was just fucking exhausting and ridiculous and life is much easier without having to justify opening my mouth.
Get rid op, he is making your life a bloody misery.

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