Was anyone happy to find out their partner was cheating?

[SunnyLion]

Lots of posts about cheating partners & being heartbroken.
Was wondering if anyone felt the opposite?
I did. I was in a bland boring marriage for years.
Had many chats to dicuss separating, but he wouldn't & i had nowhere to go. So my plan was when youngest starts senior school I'll increase hrs to full time & separate.
We plodded along living separate lives. Me & my 2 kids with the usual routine of school/work, days out at wknds just us 3 & he did his own thing.
Honestly can't say it was awful for me, but it's not the life I wanted.
THEN I find out his having an affair. After the shock/anger of how dare he, came the realisation that this is my out whether he wants it or not.
I wasn't sad or heartbroken I felt calm and positive.

That's the difference when you're in a loveless marriage though isn't it.
Feeling happy and not heartbroken knowing you're partner has betrayed.
His affair was the best thing to happen to me.

Yes 🙌 but in the opposite way. It brought us closer together. Which is uncommon but it was worthwhile saving our marriage. Yours however was a blessing if you needed to justify why you need to leave, so good for you. It’s not all as bad as people make it out to be. It can bring clarity.

Yeah, the taboo is that if you leave an abusive marriage there is social stigma towards that, but not so much if you leave due to cheating. That is my experience anyway.
It is like its engraved into us that cheating is more of a deal breaker than if someone is emotionally, physically, financially, sexually and verbally abusing you.

A friend of mine told me she felt relieved when she found out. She'd been miserable for a long time but he was a manipulative SOB and if she ever tried to leave he'd wheedle his way into staying.

Once she found out he was cheating she had an out, much easier for her to leave. She said she felt sad for the time she wasted with him, but not the end of their relationship or the cheating.

I'm just glad she's free and happy now.

My best friend was very happy and excited to find out her husband was cheating some years ago - she really hoped and prayed it would all work out for them both and he would move out. She was devastated when they split up and left her stuck with him in the house

Sort of but the other way around. Was in a terrible, neglectful 6 year relationship with a druggie who didn't give a damn about me but liked keeping me around because his mates fancied me so he got man points for dating me.

I was dead against cheating. Then one day I did it. Rather than being disgusted at myself, it made me realise that I didn't have to stay with druggie ex. Others were out there. I 100% didn't regret it and ended up marrying the guy I cheated with, 10 years later we are very happy with a daughter and dog to complete the family.

So sort of?

I was shocked and sick to my stomach - it was extremely hurtful and made me feel a complete fool. BUT, underneath the initial emotional reaction was a deep sense of relief. It was a shambling, zombie of a marriage - I should have taken a baseball bat to it a couple of years earlier. So yes, it gave me the out I didn’t realise I so desperately needed.