O.L.D and neurodiverse HELP!

[DontMeanToBeWeird]

I have always been eccentric and "weird" and tried to fit in but just can't. I have diagnosed dyspraxia and ADHD. Waiting for autism assessment which I think will be positive as I started to think I'm autistic after DD was diagnosed in late teens and we are extremely similar.
I was in an abusive marriage and before that several abusive relationships. When was much younger, if I dated nice normal guys I ended things or cheated on them to be with "bad boys" who I found more exciting (I regret this now!!!)
I have recently very tentatively dipped my toes into Bumble and have been chatting to someone. Just messaging no phone-calls yet. He's text me this evening saying he was telling his friends about me, I asked what he is saying, and he's told them one of the things he likes about me is that I don't care what anyone thinks of me. This is so far off the mark I can't believe it! I do care, a hell of a lot! ☹ I try so bloody hard to fit in. I just can't! I thought that I'd managed to keep my weirdness in check as we are only messaging at this point, but clearly even the way I message is a bit weird / kooky.
I have told this guy I have ADHD and dyspraxia but haven't mentioned the autism as not been diagnosed.
I suppose my query is what do I do next? Do I embrace my weirdness? Deny it?
When I was a teenager / student I think my lack of filter and weird behaviour was quite endearing to men (I was always being put on a pedestal as some kind of manic pixie dream girl) up to a point... But those same men couldn't cope with meltdowns, or obsessions, or my selective mutism at times and became nasty.
I have one friend with ADHD but her (really lovely) DH doesn't have it and they are very happy. And another who I suspect has ADHD but her husband is very cold and they essentially lead separate lives. I think part of the problem is that people don't understand that ADHD is more than just being hyper, if affects every aspect of your personality. I don't want this bloke I'm chatting to thinking I'm cute and kooky, "totally unbothered" etc. when I'm a neurotic mess.

Is anyone else in a similar situation? Are there any apps for neurodiverse people to date each other? Should I just use those? Sorry for long post my head's all over the place - I can't tell if this was some kind of negging thing or if he just likes eccentrics!
Thank you x

You don’t have to label yourself as eccentric or weird, or anything; you’re just you. My DD has dyspraxia, ASD and severe ADHD, yes to many ignorant people she may come across as “odd” but she wouldn’t want to be friends (or more) with such narrow people anyway.
I have Asperger’s and sadly severe c-PTSD, I have very few friends and some of my neighbours blank me, but most people are at least polite (I’ve always coped with social communication by being very mannerly), and the couple of people who care I know care deeply…and we all accept and embrace each other’s foibles.

So - my DD has people who love her and I know it’s through her enthusiasm, she’s happy to listen to other’s passions as she also appreciates those who take an interest in her hyper fixations, her kindness, and her decency. They don’t care that she’s very clumsy and appears very dopey at times (her words).

She has found people through her interests, could you do the same? Eg DD dated someone she met at a heavy metal concert, and also someone she knew through her hobby class.
I met my DH in the village, we were neighbours who over a wee bit of time and lots of local walks became best friends and so much more.
Lastly - I’ve actually found it far easier to sort the wheat from the chaff by not hiding who I am…it saves my time and my heart, so I don’t hide anymore, I often wear t-shirts with niche quotes or read a thick obscure book at times most others are on their phones, and occasionally you find another like- minded soul who you wouldn’t have guessed is.