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Little things that make a relationship

14 replies

Wellhowdeedoo · 28/04/2023 23:14

Some of mine -

  • Waking up smiles
  • Being tucked back in when they have to get up earlier than you
  • Being brought a cup of tea in bed
  • Putting your coat in the end of the radiator so it’s warm when you put it on
  • Making you a packed lunch
  • Kissing goodbye before going to work
  • Sending silly texts / gifs / memes through the day

Anyone else have those little things that make you appreciate your OH?

OP posts:
Motheranddaughtertotwo · 28/04/2023 23:22

This is sweet.
For me:

  • filling my car with petrol
  • making me a tea and giving me time to unwind before I have to deal with the kids when I get in from work
  • bringing me a hot water bottle when my IBS flares up
  • kissing me every morning when he leaves for work even though I’m still asleep
We’re lucky to have them 🥰
HelpIcantfindaname · 12/05/2023 16:28

Doing all the cooking.

Telling me how much he loves me every day.

Backing my new car onto the very narrow drive every night when he gets home from work (cos I'm frightened I'll scratch it.)

Not complaining when I buy another plant.

That kiss on my forehead.

Fetching me tablets & drinks when chemo side effects are bad.

Creeping around in the dark to get ready for work so he doesn't wake me.

Still marrying me last year, even though I'd just been diagnosed with St.4 cancer, & I'd told him he didn't have to stay cos his last wife died of cancer, & I didn't want him to have to go through that again.

BigFatLiar · 12/05/2023 16:41

When I get home after a cold wet session of volunteering I find a warm bath with a glass of wine and chocolate/cake and pyjamas on the heater to warm.
A kiss or a cuddle randomly through the day.
Listens to me complaining.
Looks after me when I'm ill. When I was really bad he'd carry me to the toilet and even had to help clean my bottom.
Tells me I'm pretty (we're pensioners so it's not really likely)
Holds my hand
Makes me a cuppa without being asked

Chelsea26 · 12/05/2023 19:46

It’s all about the little things…

Cuddling last thing at night and first thing in the morning.
Always, always, kissing goodbye and hello
Turning the shower on so it’s hot when I get in
Walking down to walk me back from the station if I’m out late
When I mention in passing that I want to do something/go somewhere/try something - it’s booked and organised hours or days later.
Being kind to my children and my family as well as his children and his family
Being supremely capable around the house, both at DIY and housework and just getting on with it as an equal partner

I love him!

febrezeme · 12/05/2023 19:48

These are all so lovely and has reinforced what was missing in my marriage with my soon to be x husband. I hope to meet a man as lovely as all of yours x

redbluepens · 12/05/2023 20:34

Wow these are lovely. Having always lived with abusive men (father/partners) it seems amazing that it could be possible to have someone treat you like this, with actual love and respect. Never come across it before in all my 40 something years and have chosen to be single because of it.
But maybe there is hope x

MerryChristmasToYou · 12/05/2023 20:35

Knowing that someone has my back

Dacadactyl · 12/05/2023 20:38

For me it's not the little things that make our relationship tbh. It's the big things.

I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that he would do anything for me and the kids. He ALWAYS puts us first and always would, in any situation whatsoever.

Kangarude · 12/05/2023 20:44

HelpIcantfindaname · 12/05/2023 16:28

Doing all the cooking.

Telling me how much he loves me every day.

Backing my new car onto the very narrow drive every night when he gets home from work (cos I'm frightened I'll scratch it.)

Not complaining when I buy another plant.

That kiss on my forehead.

Fetching me tablets & drinks when chemo side effects are bad.

Creeping around in the dark to get ready for work so he doesn't wake me.

Still marrying me last year, even though I'd just been diagnosed with St.4 cancer, & I'd told him he didn't have to stay cos his last wife died of cancer, & I didn't want him to have to go through that again.

You both sound lovely Flowers

Arxx · 12/05/2023 20:48

When I realise he’s got me something he knows I’d like, even a really small thing. Tonight for example I heard him putting beers away in the fridge after coming home from the supermarket. I jokingly said ‘oh that will be my non alcoholic kopparberg’. I’m heavily pregnant and always drank that when I was pregnant in the summer last time, today is the first really nice day we’ve had. He said ‘oh sorry I didn’t even think’ and I just laughed and moved on because I knew he wouldn’t of given I hadn’t asked for it and haven’t drank it at all yet. About two hours later I went into the fridge to see them sitting there.. he had got them 🥹

Ofcourseshecan · 12/05/2023 20:54

HelpIcantfindaname · 12/05/2023 16:28

Doing all the cooking.

Telling me how much he loves me every day.

Backing my new car onto the very narrow drive every night when he gets home from work (cos I'm frightened I'll scratch it.)

Not complaining when I buy another plant.

That kiss on my forehead.

Fetching me tablets & drinks when chemo side effects are bad.

Creeping around in the dark to get ready for work so he doesn't wake me.

Still marrying me last year, even though I'd just been diagnosed with St.4 cancer, & I'd told him he didn't have to stay cos his last wife died of cancer, & I didn't want him to have to go through that again.

You both have someone wonderful and you deserve all the happiness in the world. Best wishes to you both xxx

Meadowflower2023 · 12/05/2023 21:00

Is someone cutting onions? This thread is so lovely and refreshing - good call @Wellhowdeedoo

StrawberryWasp · 12/05/2023 21:03

Dacadactyl · 12/05/2023 20:38

For me it's not the little things that make our relationship tbh. It's the big things.

I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that he would do anything for me and the kids. He ALWAYS puts us first and always would, in any situation whatsoever.

Mine too.
I know that me and the children come above everything always and everything he does is for us.

He works long hours, and sometimes it annoys me but I know that he only does it because he wants more for us.

He's always kind to my parents even though they're annoying. He'll do anything to help them and always makes them feel welcome.

He's my greatest cheer leader and encourages me to believe in myself and aim high.

He always compliments me every day. He notices when I've made an effort to look nice and tells me he thinks I do.

He'll go to films or concerts I know he's only really going to because I like them but makes an effort to have a good time so that I enjoy it with him.

He insures and taxes my car because I hate admin. In fact he does all the life admin so I don't have to.

He'll go and put petrol in my car late at night to save me having to go in the morning.

BigFatLiar · 12/05/2023 21:25

Before we married my parents liked him he was a good friend of my brother, once we became serious and marriage was on the cards they didn't. He was too old, too dull. It caused a lot of trouble and once we married I hardly spoke to my parents. When I was pregnant and nearing time I was emotional and missed my mum. He arranged for me to have my hair done and manicure. I wasn't keen but went only to find he'd also arranged for my mum to be there. I had a couple of hours sitting being getting my hair done etc alongside my mum talking about all sorts. After we went back to mum and dad's for tea and cakes. It broke the barrier between us and soon we were back to normal. Didn't take long for mum and dad to decide he was actually a good choice of husband.

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