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Crying

9 replies

Sillsally · 28/04/2023 06:39

Generally when life should be good. How often do you cry? or more to the point how often do you cry because of DP and something they have said or the way they speak to you?

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NeverMindTryAgain · 28/04/2023 06:41

Sometimes if I'm hormonal an advert will get me and I might well up.
But actually cry? Upset? Due to my partner? Once in twenty years due to a pretty tame argument when we were very young. .
Are you crying or causing someone to cry regularly?

Hiddenvoice · 28/04/2023 06:50

Liam the pp, if I’m hormonal I find that loads of things can suddenly make me cry.
My dh has made me cry a handful of times in 13 years.
Is your dp making you cry?

Copasetic · 28/04/2023 06:55

Never.

dietcokelime · 28/04/2023 07:07

My DH hasn't ever made me cry with upset or anger - when I'm hormonal I'll cry at anything (sad adverts, my cat looking different, only having Nutella and not peanut butter in the cupboard etc etc).

If your DP is often making you cry with what they're saying and doing that doesn't sound normal at all tbh.

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Sillsally · 28/04/2023 07:14

Thanks for the replies it’s so hard after a long time to know what a normal relationship should look like.

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dietcokelime · 28/04/2023 08:52

Sillsally · 28/04/2023 07:14

Thanks for the replies it’s so hard after a long time to know what a normal relationship should look like.

Hope you're okay!

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 28/04/2023 10:38

Hope you're ok OP. I have cried over something DH has said to me before but that was when we were going through a tough patch and had a toddler and didn't sleep well. We resolved it and talked it out. Also I suffer with anxiety and now I take a small amount of sertraline I'm less emotional.

mummymeister · 28/04/2023 10:41

been married over 30 years and have never cried at something my dh has said to me or about me ever. your partner should be your greatest supporter and champion. they should be the one spurring you on, lifting you up and giving you confidence. if they arent then whats the point of them. if your dp is saying things to you that are making you cry then what sort of things are these and how often.

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Sillsally · 28/04/2023 14:04

I know it’s not normal but I cry at least twice a week for the past 25 years. Sometimes it’s what is said and more often than not it’s the tone and the facial expression that’s just pure hatred then he’s often nice after. He’s never ever apologised for anything as he doesn’t believe in the word sorry. Nobody else makes me cry.. nobody.

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