Is it a crush or am I reading too much into it?

[KateLester]

I've recently become close with one of my male colleagues. We have a lot in common and make each other laugh constantly. Borderline best pals.
We recently went to a conference and he wouldn't leave my side the entire time and I was convinced that he fancied me. He was finding little ways to touch me (random fist bumps, playfully kicking my bum, messing up my hair). But that couldn't be it because he is married...and not happily as he has made subtle comments of how unhappy he is in his marriage.
We've started texting more recently and he has started making inappropriate jokes (I.e. making jokes that he needs a penis reduction because of his bad back, making masterbation jokes. That sort of thing) calling me inappropriate names (although he says they are terms of endearment). I've got a wicked sense of humour so that stuff doesn't bother me nor does it make me feel uncomfortable (I grew up with brothers) but I'm confused to whether he is treating me like one of the guys or if he actually does fancy me.
If it sounds like the latter I'm thinking I should set some boundaries...although I do fancy him and the attention is nice, but know that nothing could ever happen because he is married!
Anyway thoughts and advice are most welcome! TIA

Are you really so stupid as to fall for this? He’s a married man disrespecting his wife. Poor woman has no idea what he’s doing, although she prob knows what he’s like. Tell him to grow up and stop using the twat as an ego boost!

I have worked alongside men like this twat, no respect for their wives or girlfriends & will try it on with every female that comes their way. He needs a good slap from you next time he invades your space.

Are you 16 with no life experience?
Stop this Batpoo behaviour in its tracks. Today.
It all sounds very juvenile.

God, he sounds about 12. What's next, pinging your bra straps?

I remember putting up with this sexual harassment in the 80s, just starting secondary school. "It's just because he likes you" most teachers declared.

The rest of the UK has moved on in the last 40 years, OP. Why are you putting up with this utter bell end?

It’s not funny op. It sounds like you’re encouraging him tbh.

Ah yes, the good old 'i'm in an unhappy marriage' line. Wonder why he has felt the need to tell you this? And I wonder why, if hes so damn unhappy, why he is still in the marriage? I imagine its for the kids, or because she has mental health issues and its not the right time to leave, or because of the finances. I expect they also sleep in seperate bedrooms, have no intimacy and are more like house mates.

Sound familiar?

All the above however interprets to The wide knowing nothing about any of this and assuming there are no issues in their marriage whatsoever.

I expect he tells you he's a 'nice guy' too?

And if that isn't enough of a red flag you ahvew the inappropriate chat, texts, bum kicking, hair smooching and dirty 'jokes'.

OP, he doesn't have a crush on you. He just wants to shag you. And by the sounds of what you have said he is well schooled in how to do it and likely has done it many times before. You are just lined up to be another notch on his bedpost.

Next time he does anything at all inappropriate, even if its just a bit of a joke, shut that shit down. And I bet he won't be a 'nice guy' anymore.

Not being funny your at fault aswell as him. You think those jokes words whatever aren't inappropriate wtf is wrong with you. How the hell do you think his wife would feel seeing you 2 having these chats and your part of making her feel bad should she end up reading them or hearing about how you carry on. Way out of order between friend and over the line chat.

He doesn't fancy you, he fancies a shag with someone who isn't his wife, and you'll do.

Tell him to fuck off and move on.