I keep making contact (when I know I shouldn’t)

[Passmethpens]

I’m recently out of a Fwb situation. I really liked him, I thought he liked me, but then started feeling unimportant. I Said I wanted to feel like I was worth putting some time aside for and if he couldn’t do that then maybe we should call it a day. He said he was very busy and didn’t want to hurt my feelings so that was that. He said he had enjoyed my company and would always be my friend and always available to chat etc.

I then went on holiday and he texted as soon as I got back asking how it went. I’ve texted a couple of times since but it hasn’t really turned into a conversation, which is how things we’re before we ended it (previously he would text me loads, as in, a few months ago).
I’ve texted again tonight as it’s his birthday, despite me being determined all day not to.

I still like him. I think he still likes me a bit. We were good together and got on and enjoyed each others company. I’m struggling to let it all go!

You block and delete his number and move on. Or you ask to meet to talk, you tell him clearly what you'd like from this - a relationship- and ask if he feels the same way. If he does then you give it a go, if he doesn't then you accept his answer and explain that you can't be in contact for your own benefit so you can move on but you wish him well. Then you block and delete his number.

What you do not do is wait around over thinking bits and pieces of chats and what they mean and end up hoping it opens back into your fwb set up leading to more because it will be messy and you'll most likely be hurt.

You're nobody's second best or reserve, you deserve to date someone who makes it clear that they want to date you. And if he wanted to date you, then he would already be dating you by the sounds of things. Time to cut him off and open up your dating pool. It will be very difficult not to compare every new guy you meet if you're still in touch with him and it'll just make it even harder to move on. And it will eventually eat away at your confidence while you wonder why he isn't taking things further when you've made your intentions clear. He obviously likes you enough for fwb so I'd say this isn't any reflection on you, it's just where he's at. So accept that and move on and focus on yourself and making yourself happy.

Hi @Passmethpens don't waste time on this guy.
You deserve better, put your energy into finding someone amazing.
Sending you lots of positive vibes x

Thank you for the lovely helpful replies.

I now just need to figure out how to open up my dating pool!