Long story short I left ExH (2 DC together) of 10 years for another man because he drank too much among other things. He was devastated but met someone else within a year and we’ve both been in our relationships for 8 years. While I feel it was the right choice I am still overwhelmed with guilt and think about it daily even now. I miss him.
His GF is incredibly jealous, thinks he’s still in love with me and doesn’t like him speaking to me even about our DC so we’ve barely spoken for years despite my best efforts to engage him in co parenting. He moved away to be with her and has had more DC. He still harbours so much hatred for me and I find it really hard to deal with.
They separated a couple of months ago as did I from my partner. Exh and I have started talking again at my initiation. He said he’s sorry for not being there more for DC and that his GF was crazy and jealous…. They separated because she spread horrible rumours about our DS, none of it true and she is aware of this, in an attempt to cause trouble which is just bonkers.
All was fine, we both said we were glad to be communicating again and messaged about once a day for a week, I told him all the things I’d wanted to but wasn’t able to over the years to do with the DC. We were messaging each other and it was amicable with his asking lots of questions, then all of a sudden I get a message this morning from him saying I need to back off and stop messaging daily, that he has far more respect for her than he’ll ever have for me because I did X Y Z to him and that she just has issues. That I’m trying to cause trouble and he’s going to have to block my number. I’m really upset, I felt we were getting somewhere near working as a team and he’s just done a complete 360 on me.