Been with dh for 15 years, I’m mid 40s, we have 2
Dc & generally happy, good life etc. I had gotten to the stage where I thought I’d never feel attracted to anyone else & was absolutely fine with that. I love dh, he’s kind & funny but he’s also the least proactive person I’ve ever met & a reluctant driver having learnt later in life. I’m resentful organising everything from tradespeople, dc, to holidays. The thought of never being whisked away or taken out for an evening without arranging it all myself is a bit shit.
As title says, I’ve recently become attracted to another man who I know through a hobby. I say know, really I know nothing about him other than his name & we have the same hobby. He’s very pleasant but I’ve no idea what level of compatibility we’d have etc. This is all irrelevant. In the highly unlikely event of him being single & attracted to me, I have no interest in ending my marriage or starting an affair. I should add that I have had a very difficult 2 years, lost both my parents & dc diagnosed with a chronic illness, all led me to a period of depression which I felt was coming to an end. In short, I’d just like these feelings to go away please-assume my subconscious is doing something. It’s distracting & confusing & frankly embarrassing. I feel I’d be uncomfortable speaking to close friends about this in the real world.
Has anyone else been in a similar position or any advice how to deal with this?