Am I being unreasonable? New business and husband

[TheOP2]

Hubby and I decided some time ago to save up to buy a holiday home somewhere which we did Sept last year. Fairly recently I have set up my own pet sitting business around my part time career as a senior health professional. I'm very proud of what I've achieved and the business is booming!!!! He's now giving me a really hard time saying things like "don't you like the holiday home?"
"Do you not want to spend time with me"
"Would you rather be home alone?"
He says things like "I'm going to spend time there without you as I like going there and we bought it so we could spend time together but we hardly ever see each other "(he travels alot for work but this is fairly new since his promotion) .

I feel like I don't need this nonsense in my life but am I being too independent? We've been married for 3 years.

I think possibly more information is needed. How often do you go to the holiday home? How much is the new business actually impacting your time together?
It's all about context isn't it?
I don't think he's u fair to want to spend time with you?

There's nowhere near enough information here.

Are you staying at other people's homes when you pet-sit, and is that taking time away from you two as a couple?

If so, did you discuss any of that with him before setting up a business that takes you away from home overnight on a regular basis?

Sorry, I only look after cats for 30 mins in the morning and 30 mins in the evening... He was really supportive when I set up the business.

But your cat sitting is preventing you from using the holiday home. Is that right? I can see why he would be annoyed.

Ah - so are you taking on bookings when you could otherwise be away at the holiday home with DH?

Do you discuss the bookings and dates with him before accepting or does it just have to put up with it?

I run a pet-sitting business too and anything that will potentially interfere with our holidays or weekends is always discussed in advance.

Did you set the business up before or after you decided to get a second home?

I’m confused really why you saved up for a holiday home but then also set up a business that ties you to home….the two don’t combine and neither of you are in the wrong but it’s not been well thought out. I’d suggest some kind of compromise of when you’ll go to the holiday home and therefore not book work in for

I don't see why it won't work if you get a list of dates your husband is away for cat sitting weeks, and be 'fully booked' when he's home and will want to go to the holiday home

Presumably you purchased the holiday home in order to spend quality time together? So I suppose it depends how much impact your new business is having on those original plans.

I would be aggrieved at purchasing a holiday home and then being unable to use it because of a very part time commitment to tend to other people’s pets when they holiday. Have you compromised on setting aside regular weekends when you are not taking bookings ?

Half an hour morning and evening?

Are your earnings from cat sitting significant to either of you?

If not, you have a hobby which interferes with your marriage.

Yes you are being massively unreasonable. I would be very angry if we purchased a holiday home and then DH could never get there because he is looking after a cat. Why didn't you think this through?