OP, if his actions are not showing you that he loves you, then why are you staying with him?
In my opinion , l love is an action word. No amount of kissing and cuddling are indicators of love, but what he dies and how he treats you are the lasting indicators.
However, you know what you need and want, and if those things are not there then why stay?
I have a friend who insisted that her ex bring her flowers once a week and that he kiss her goodbye every time that he left the house. When he moved out of the home , he told her that he wanted a real marriage and not some " scripted relationship. " He told her that his new friend did not ask for flowers, kisses, or date nights, but she enjoyed his presence, laughed at his jokes, understood his need sometimes for space and silence, and occasionally said thank you when he had done nothing at all. My friend has been married now to her current husband for a little more than 3 years and there are no demands for weekly flowers or on-demand kissing times. She is much more into letting this new marriage create its own language and moments.
Again, if you need a more demonstrative man, leave this man and find that man. There is likely some woman out there who will find this man acceptable as he is, but you don't have to be that woman.