I need to help and advice, so starting from the beginning:
My mother in law has always made me feel like she hated me and that I wasn't welcome in her family. Many times before she told me to pack my bags and f* back to my own country. For me that was being racist but she doesn't think that and thinks I'm over reacting.
I've learnt to just ignore her and I really don't see her often but the issue I have at the moment is about my daughter.
My beautiful baby girl was born almost 6 weeks ago, and if I could I would stop her from seeing my baby girl forever.
When I first found out I was pregnant I didn't want her to know or my partners family with the history I have had from my mother in law, however I thought maybe my baby girl would be the thing she might need to break the ice and accept me. I was fully wrong.
Me and my partner rang her and told her the good news that we were expecting, and the first thing that you heard was the fact that me and my partner are toxic we shouldn't be having children, that this child would be unhappy and neglected in our home. From then I kept my low profile because I didn't want to stress as much.
When I did see her a few days after that incident she was as cold as ice towards me and I had a feeling that she would do anything to prove to me that she has all the power and I my feeling wasn't wrong
It got to mine and my partner's 12 week scan and my father in law took us and I was really happy because I thought maybe a change, as it was my mother in law who got him to take us. Well later on that day both me and my partner found out that his mother never wanted his dad to take us and at first she even told him he wasn't allowed to take us. To all this, my friend had shown me messages that my partner's mother had been sending to her, calling me it, saying that our daughter isn't his child, she wishes that I wasn't pregnant and was having this child, so that night I messaged her and said that she will never see my child again and that was a promise because I didn't want my baby going through the same issues
Through this whole pregnancy I have kept my distance and away from her. She kept asking my partner how my appointments when and if we know the gender and stuff. So me and my partner made the decision that if he wants he can tell my in laws what we are having. Well my mother in law decided to tell everyone our gender and when we told her that she really upset us and that it was wrong because she didn't even ask us if it was okay, she started to blame me and my partner for not allowing her to be happy she is having a granddaughter, but she didn't want her before hand.
My mother in law also tried telling me that my doctor's and nurses were wrong and that I was making a big deal out of nothing or that she didn't believe that the doctors said that they might have to induce me at 32 weeks because of all the issues and complications that me and my partner had.
My mother in law also made a big issue about what name and surname our daughter would have. In her opinion our daughter should of only had my partner's surname and not a joint surname.
A few days ago I also found out that the day I told her that she would never see our daughter she got legal advice about getting legal rights to our daughter. She also, told me that she had legal rights towards our daughter and that she needs and has to know everything that goes on in her life and every medical appointment or hospital visit that our daughter has.
I really don't know what to do. I wish my mother in law wouldn't be able to see our daughter but also I don't want any legal procedures and have my daughter taken off me. Someone please help I'm really stressed and anxious about this.