I’ve been with DP for 2 years, I have 2dc, 10 and 13. They first met him after about 7 months, but it was very gradual, meeting in days out etc. I didn’t force it, they were curious to meet him. He doesn’t have children (not by choice, infertility).
To not make this too long, almost every time we do something all together it is hard work. My dc become very hyper, a bit “showy offy”, and their sibling bickering ramps right up and often ends in fighting and disaster. I should add that 10yr old is autistic. We had a disastrous trip last year with lots of meltdowns, fighting and general bad behaviour (not all autism related).
I can see that this is probably them pushing boundaries a bit, maybe testing him? Sussing him out a bit? But I know he’s finding it really hard. I’m beginning to think we might be at a point where we/he says it won’t work. Because yes we can carry on seeing each other without them, but I suppose future wise in a few years (at least 2) we’d hoped to live together.
Any advice? Keep trying casual hanging out, and hope it gets better? Give up?