Getting back with ex

[Nachobowls]

Has anyone got back with an ex after years apart? Any success stories? I'm not coping on my own and think I should get back with my ex. Leaving isn't always better, has anyone gone back? How would I approach this?

Because he doesn’t want to. We are a package as far as he is concerned and I suspect he doesn’t want me to have any time off to punish me.

That does sound really tough, @Nachobowls. 4 children is a lot to handle with no support. I can see why returning seems the best course but it’s a shame.

What a prince.

Why wouldn't the children dare to misbehave around him? Is he scary?

Getting back with an ex can be a complex decision, and it's important to carefully consider various factors before moving forward. Here are some things to think about:

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1. Reflect on the past: Take time to reflect on the reasons why you broke up in the first place. Were there unresolved issues, incompatible values, or fundamental problems that led to the breakup? It's crucial to understand if those issues can be addressed and resolved for a healthier relationship moving forward.
2. Evaluate personal growth: Consider whether both you and your ex have grown individually since the breakup. Have you worked on personal development, self-awareness, and addressing any problematic behaviors or patterns? It's important that both parties have made efforts to grow and improve for the relationship to have a better chance at success.
3. Communication and honesty: Open and honest communication is vital in any relationship. Have candid conversations with your ex about what went wrong in the past, how you both have changed, and what you expect moving forward. Establishing clear communication and understanding can help rebuild trust and set a foundation for a healthier relationship.
4. Time and space: It's important to have had enough time and space apart after the breakup. Rushing back into a relationship without allowing for personal healing and reflection may lead to similar issues resurfacing. Take the time to assess your feelings and whether you genuinely want to give the relationship another chance.
5. Rebuilding trust: Rebuilding trust can be a challenging process. Both you and your ex need to demonstrate consistency, reliability, and follow-through on your commitments. Trust is essential for a healthy and successful relationship, and it takes time to rebuild it.
6. Learn from the past: Reflect on the lessons you've learned from the previous relationship and identify areas for improvement. Be willing to work on those aspects individually and as a couple.
7. Seek external support if needed: If you're uncertain about whether to get back with your ex, consider seeking the help of a relationship counselor or therapist. They can provide guidance, facilitate communication, and help navigate the challenges that may arise.
8. Consider compatibility: Assess the compatibility between you and your ex. Are your values, goals, and visions for the future aligned? Evaluate whether you share a strong foundation for a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.
9. Trust your intuition: Ultimately, trust your intuition and listen to your inner voice. If deep down you feel that getting back with your ex is the right decision and you believe in the potential for growth and happiness, then it might be worth exploring.

Remember that every relationship is unique, and there is no guarantee of success. Carefully weigh the pros and cons, consider the lessons learned from the past, and make a decision that aligns with your happiness and well-being.