NC as don't want to out myself
My current partner of 3 years is 32. And very much emotionally stunted.
Long story short his first girlfriend was when he was 18. They were together just over a year. She was his first everything. When he met her, she dating a guy called Billy. She dated them both for a few months then left Billy. They got along fine and then she cheated on him (had a threesome behind his back!) they broke up and got back together. Then she broke up with him and went back to Billy!!!!
DP then spent 6 (yes 6) years pining for her. Think Facebook posts like "I had the perfect girl and I lost her" , "I'll wait forever for her". Literally a few weeks before he met his next girlfriend he was still messaging her asking to meet up.
He then met his girlfriend and dated her for 2.5 years but it didn't work out for various reasons.
He met me a year later.
Bare in mind it has now been 13 years since the first girlfriend...
And he is so emotionally damaged by her still. Thinks I'm going to leave him because she did. Thinks I'll cheat because she did.
She did message him out of the blue a year ago, "to talk", he told her if he was single he would meet her but he's with me and doesn't want to ruin us.
Cue me now being very unsettled - why, after 13 years would he entertain this?
He tells me he loved her at the time, but looking back he thinks he was trying to replace the feeling of being with someone. He tells me he loves me and wants to marry me and that he never felt for her like he does for me. But says if he was single he'd meet her to hear her out, wouldn't want her back but would probably sleep with her because she would be no different to a random stranger to hook up with...
Swears he doesn't love or want her...
But he is so hung up in that stage of life it's hard to believe he's 32.