DANGER TIME : When you're back at work, and you're being treated like a human being, and you come home and HATE dh for treating you any less..

[meander]

That's about it, really. I thought I was quite the example of modern have-it-allness, equal shares and all that, but now that I'm back in work on a regular basis, it's holding up a mirror to the fact that DH is inherently pretty selfish, and considers himself wonderboy for his little acts of domesticity, whilst looking down on my work/income.

This is essentially just a vent, I know it's been done so many times before, I just can't believe I let myself get into a situation where I feel SO frustrated with his attitude.

I thought I had his respect, I thought I had this covered. How could he just turn around and ... I don't know, just disregard my efforts like this?

Anyway, I feel better for offloading, saves me the effort of beating him around the head and neck with my favourite heels

If this bores you, I'm also always in the market for decent chocolate cake recipes

How long have you been back at work meander ? If its early days then things do settle down. Anything practical that you can do like hire a cleaner, get an ironing service, buy ready meals from M&S ?

If you want to be really sneaky and underhand then you could threaten to give up work. That might force your DH to a) show appreciation of your income and b) be a bit more helpful around the house.

Meander, how are you feeling now?

Counselling?
Have you talked to him about it and how it makes you feel?
What does he say?
Is he just slipping into a role or is it deliberate on his part?

sympathy, it must be hard, it would make me FURIOUs.