Stupid crass comment or a bit racist?

[Maillie]

Was watching a tv show yday with dp of 1 year. He has a habit of commenting on what the characters do in a silly way and we both have a dark sense of humour, I do feel like he can sometimes take it too far though.

One of the characters was propositioned by a guy, she was white and he was British but appeared to be of south Asian origin. Dp commented “oh she likes Indians then”.

wtf? I just ignored it but it’s been playing on my mind. Why even the need to comment? How is it relevant. We are both white.

I guess it depends on ’the tone’ if you know what I mean.
I’m personally super sensitive about these things, has he made other comments.
Do you think he meant it as in she’s ’ruined’ kind of way, or was it in neutral kind of way ie. Oh, she likes brunettes type of acknowledgement.

As someone who is South Asian I don't think its racist.

Thanks guys, I’m really attuned to these kinds of things (I appreciate a lot of people are) because my mum is foreign and I grew up outside the U.K. so I feel like it’s important to call these things out and could never be with someone who had dodgy opinions.

it did definitely seem like a comment made for the point of saying something (oh that’s her type) rather than a negative slant.

As a white person married to a South Asian person, this comment would make me feel uncomfortable. I don't like "Indians" - there are more than 1 billion of them and I don't know them all. I do like my husband!

It's a weird, unnecessary comment tbh. I would ask him why he said it and see how he responds.

@MrsBennetsPoorNerves that’s exactly how I feel!!!

I'm not white married to a white person and I don't personally think it's racist.
Ethnicity is a big factor in attraction for many. I think people would make that comment mentally if not verbally: oh he likes chubby women, Oh she likes gingers When they they see a stereotypically unexpected match and mixed relationships still surprise some people who maybe don't see this so much.

Yes I would have taken it as oh that's her type rather than racist .

Slightly odd thing to say but then again probably not overtly racist.

I witnessed a real classic in a Turkish restaurant yesterday. Two white british women complained about the coffee (which was traditional turkish coffee served in beautiful ornate glass and gold cups), saying it was too strong and explaining that we don't drink our coffee like that "here". Then about the menu choices, saying that British people like steak or chicken.

It's a new restaurant and they genuinely thought they were giving the owner valuable advice.

When I was caught looking at them, one of them gave me a knowing eye-roll (probably about forreners) and shook her head at the coffee.

These awful people walk among us.

Some white men have problems with white women dating men of different ethnicities. Especially if they're insecure. It's kinda us against them situation...stealing our women etc. let's hope he doesn't have those views if you ever have a daughter and she brings a non white guy home who has to 'prove' he's good enough for your husband. It's rude racist and stems from insecurity.

@AmandaHoldensLips they sound entitled and should have gone to a restaurant a bit more close to home. Really weird to go somewhere where there is food from other cultures and criticise it.