Strange situation In colleague’s home.

[mermaid101]

I’m not very sure if this is even an issue or if I am overthinking a situation.
I have recently started a new job and sometimes work from home with my boss. She is married and her DH works in the city near her house.

The other day, she ordered us a pizza for lunch as we had completed a big project as a bit of a treat. I noticed she was very meticulous when she cleaned up and she put the box in bags and then in the outside bin.

I was still there when her DH got home and he asked what we had for lunch. My boss sort of froze and looked a bit panicked, so I quickly said that I had brought some fruit and nuts and we had had that, which was true. But obviously we had also eaten a pizza. She agreed with me.

I thought she looked scared and there was a bit of an atmosphere for about ten mins. She seemed flustered and nervous. I glossed over it and tried to keeping chatting about work.

I feel like I might have witnessed something, but it feels innocuous and I could be mistaken. She is in a VERY senior position at my company. I am not nearly as senior. We don’t know each other very well but she is absolutely lovely. She has been so supportive to me and I am very fond of her.

should I say anything? I’m worried that I call this wrong and cause an issue. If it is relevant she has no family nearby and doesn’t seem to see very many friends- she is very busy with work.

It wouldn't have even registered in my head.
A pizza box is big and would fill up my bin, it's normal to put it outside.
She might have worried about not leaving him a piece. I wouldn't think it's sinister but I wasn't there. You might be projecting things onto their relationship. If she knew she couldn't eat this stuff she wouldn't have bought it when she knew her husband could come. She might go out to eat such foods as pizza can smell even after it's eaten there is a greasy doughy smell in the air.
I think you're overthinking...........

Could be anything! From fairly innocuous stuff such as having stated firmly that she is dieting and feeling embarrassed, to feeling awkward at not having saved him any pizza, to him being controlling about food or what they spend on food. I’d go with being a quietly supportive presence until and unless you witness anything else that looks more obviously dodgy, or she confides in you.

I wouldn’t be at all surprised to hear that her husband is financially controlling and none of her ‘very senior’ salary is hers to spend as she pleases …

Don't say anything. She won't gain anything from it, she knows you know. She is your boss so anything you do say could be perceived as for your benefit, not hers. Pointing out what you did for her is virtue signalling and unnecessary, even saying knowingly that you are there for her isn't appropriate. Just be a friend and support her if she needs you.

Don't say anything, carry on being friendly. If she brings the topic up be a good listener. I have a family member who won't allow 'smelly foreign food' in the house. I transgressed once without realising and, bloody hell, you would have thought I had committed a crime by their reaction. The person concerned is very controlling on other matters. So, her husband could be like that and she might be living with all sorts of stupid rules.

You don't need to say anything because she knows that you know - you both blatantly lied about lunch. She also already knows that you're supportive and on her side - because you both blatantly lied about lunch.

Continue as you are. As things go, you can continue to demonstrate support and if and when you know her better or it feels appropriate, you can say or do something more proactive if necessary.

What’s your take on it? Do you think he could be angry re. the food choice, the expense. Your spider senses tingled, what did they say?