How to know if it's time to end it

[helenv679]

My partner and I don't seem to be making each other happy, but I'm having a hard time knowing if we should consider ending it, or working on it.

I'm struggling to raise the conversation for a few reasons:

1. We have a 7 month old, so I'm not sure if it's just an adjustment period as our lives change.

1. I'm overwhelmingly terrified of being alone, emotionally but also physically. I don't feel safe at night and get very anxious.

1. I don't want to regret making the wrong decision if it's just temporary or circumstantial issues

From conversations we have had, he doesn't want to end it but is also not happy.

How do you know if it should still be worked on if the best thing is to split? Do people often regret ending things? How can you tell if it's a bad patch or something more?
I know i might sound a bit naive, I'm just really struggling to trust my own feelings and looking for some perspective.

Why are you overwhelmingly terrified of being alone? Was this the case before the child arrived?

@Goatbilly yes, even before having a child. Always been a bit nervous, but neighbours had an intruder break in while in the house last year so gotten worse since then.

I know it's not a reason to stay with someone, but when I'm weighing up what to do it factors in (rightly or wrongly) - as I want to feel safe.

Although your reasons for your anxiety are plausible, you do need to buil up resilience. What would you do if your partner was no longer around, for whatever reason, unexpectedly died or left you? Do you have other support networks family etc that you can lean other than your partner?

@xfan I do, but not in the city I live in.
I know you're right, it's just very daunting. Maybe I need to work on that before making any major decisions like this.