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How do you do it?

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Ilovepugs2017 · 19/04/2023 08:01

How do you make time for ‘intimacy’ with your partner? My partner goes to work at 5am and by the time we’ve got the kids to bed we are in bed trying to get sleep ourselves as he needs to be up early again. It’s frustrating as we don’t seem to have any us time. Any tips?

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Ilovepugs2017 · 19/04/2023 18:25

Anyone? 🫣

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YouJustDoYou · 19/04/2023 18:28

Having sex helps him sleep, so...we just make time for 20 minutes or so when the kids are asleep. Then he's out like a light 😅

Humanswarm · 19/04/2023 18:37

Enjoy normal intimacy in the week, just hugging as you go to sleep, whatever. Then ramp it up at the weekends. If you're both knackered in the week, neither of you are feeling it..make sure you make that time at the weekends.

Holycow23x · 19/04/2023 18:51

Right after kids bedtime for us 😂😂 xx

motherofkevinnotperry · 19/04/2023 19:16

Early nights, on a morning and grabbing whatever time you can find. It's hard but you've got to accept the frequency does drop off.

Afternoon naps on days off work well. Put kids to bed for a little while, tell them to play in their rooms and rest. Put a film on for them and grab 15 minutes etc.

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/04/2023 19:19

If it’s important you make time. Do you watch tv? Have a quickie first. That sort of thing.

What do you do at the moment? The more you do it the more you tend to want to, if it’s decent sex.

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Ilovepugs2017 · 26/04/2023 13:10

YouJustDoYou · 19/04/2023 18:28

Having sex helps him sleep, so...we just make time for 20 minutes or so when the kids are asleep. Then he's out like a light 😅

Haha 😂 good plan

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Ilovepugs2017 · 26/04/2023 13:12

Humanswarm · 19/04/2023 18:37

Enjoy normal intimacy in the week, just hugging as you go to sleep, whatever. Then ramp it up at the weekends. If you're both knackered in the week, neither of you are feeling it..make sure you make that time at the weekends.

Yes good idea, at least then he doesn’t have to be up quite so early in the morning 😌

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Ilovepugs2017 · 26/04/2023 13:13

Holycow23x · 19/04/2023 18:51

Right after kids bedtime for us 😂😂 xx

we deffo need to make more effort to just leave whatever else needs doing and have some us time

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Ilovepugs2017 · 26/04/2023 13:14

motherofkevinnotperry · 19/04/2023 19:16

Early nights, on a morning and grabbing whatever time you can find. It's hard but you've got to accept the frequency does drop off.

Afternoon naps on days off work well. Put kids to bed for a little while, tell them to play in their rooms and rest. Put a film on for them and grab 15 minutes etc.

Yeah I know what you mean. It’s difficult because life is so hectic sometimes but I guess even 20 minutes here and there is better than nothing at all.

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Ilovepugs2017 · 26/04/2023 13:15

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/04/2023 19:19

If it’s important you make time. Do you watch tv? Have a quickie first. That sort of thing.

What do you do at the moment? The more you do it the more you tend to want to, if it’s decent sex.

We don’t actually watch much tv to be honest - very rarely.
I honestly don’t know where the time goes!

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Ilovepugs2017 · 26/04/2023 13:15

Apologies for my late replies btw - hadn’t had a notification to say anyone responded!

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