Lonely

[Hackitnow]

've been married for 15 years now together for 18 since I was 17 im now 34 he's 43 have 3 girls that don't live with us anymore been through everything from homelessness to drug use to family deaths u name it we have survived it main thing always a problem is lack of intimacy affection just straight ignoring me we barely say 5 words to each other he says its cuz were around each other all the time nothing to talk about but even when were watching TV or something simple where he could just put his arm on me or something he sits there if I try to lay by or on him he gets up starts doing something else im lonely and cry everyday now when I'm sitting in house he outside again doing God knows what his schedule is work comes home goes outside for rest of day comes in and immediately falls asleep watching TV help what can I do

Can you ask him if he will sit down with you and talk about the state of your relationship?

If he won't, then it sounds like the relationship is over.

Yes we've talked over the years he's admitted he doesn't kno how to show affection but now he just tells me he loves me and quit tripping he wants nothing else then to b with me but his actions say otherwise to me maybe I am tripping but if he loves me shouldn't he want me to not be so sad and crying?

Yes he should. The fact he's dismissing your feelings is a big problem. I've got no answers but wanted to sympathise as my dh is a bit like yours, doesn't really seem to be bothered about physical affection or physical closeness. On many occasions I've hugged him and he'll stand there with his arms by his sides. If I sit by him on the sofa he'll often get up and do something else. When I pull him up on it he puts more effort in but it doesn't come naturally to him. Tbh I think its down to incompatibility and if your partner isn't interested in trying to improve things, you'd probably be less lonely living on your own.