Divorcing how to tell kids

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My dh and I have decided to divorce
we have a 9
yo ds and 6 yo DD (both nearly 10/7)

initially dh will move out when he doesn’t have kids and have kids here and me move out when he does on alternate weekends and one night a week

we want to be amicable and work together my ds is very anxious and quite attached to me

thanks for any advice

Are you able to talk about how you want to tell the kids and then agree what to say , stick to the topic, allow the kids to ask questions and then support the kids with the aftermath?

Here is a link to a great article on your question

What to Say (and Not to Say) to Your Kids in Divorce (survivedivorce.com)

Yes thanks
just wonder the realities of it all and other peoples
experiences esp with anxious child

will read this thanks you for posting xx

I was literally about to start the exact same thread. I’m so worried about telling my DC (8 and 10) that I’m contemplating staying in the relationship (despite previous cheating).

it’s been eating me up for 5 months since I found out about the affairs. If we didn’t have kids I would happily walk away, but I think it will destroy the kids. I’m so sad. How can we possibly tell them we are splitting?

Kids generally adapt easier than we expect. Mine were 2 and 5 so we never really had the conversation, I just explained they’d have 2 homes now. They were fine about it

I recently had this talk with my eleven year old. It went so much better than I could have imagined. It's good that you have a plan for stability for them.
I just told my daughter that we would be living apart and that I felt this was best for everyone as her Dad and I just were not getting along however much we tried. Explained that she will see us both, but live with me. She has had very few questions. Good luck with this. I hope it goes well.

Great article thank you 🙏

Best of luck OP.

It'll be hard for you and DC short term. But it'll be a much happier life for everyone long term.

💐

The Co-parenting handbook by Karen Bonnell is very helpful.

I think it's a really good idea to keep the children in their usual home/routine if you can.

Good luck, it's a hellish thing to do but ultimately you will all be happy again at some point. And remember to look after yourself too. That's where I went wrong. Self care is everything.