DS break up with 1st love.

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Not to sure how to play this so looking for advice please.
DS 20 has just ended things with his GF 19. He is really heartbroken but feels it is the right thing to do. He can’t give her the attention she wants due to the nature of his studies and extra curricula activities he is doing to set himself up for his future.
we really like the GF and she doesn’t have much support, if any, and I am concerned for her.
we would text occasionally and so I have her number, should I msg to see that she is ok or just leave them to it and support my DS as needed?

At the end of the day though how do I support my DS, just let him do what he does and just be there?

You keep out of it, anything else is clearly overstepping and would be seen as odd.

I tend to agree that it's best to stay out of it. You could outright ask your son how you can be helpful.

Yeah hard as it will be not to, I wouldn't message the girlfriend.

It sounds like your DS has made a sensible decision and I say this as someone who married their teenage partner - it's worked out fine but it's hard work growing up together sometimes.

Your ds will be feeling a mix of emotions and so I say concentrate on supporting him. Make sure he keeps talking and check in with him regularly.
Offer your support - even if that’s in the middle of the night for a cuddle - I speak from experience.
He sounds like a sensible lad.

Let him come to you if he needs to talk about it, if he doesn't then he didn't need to.

No don’t contact her. I was that heartbroken girlfriend once and the mum (who I was close to) texting me would have given me false hope

Thanks all, you have confirmed what I was thinking.

I would contact her and just send a kind message wishing her well x