I feel very alone

[Bec2701]

I feel so alone. I am a mum to 2 children 13 & 7 and I have been single for nearly 2 years. My 13 y/o has never met their father. My 7 y/o sees their father every other weekend. On occasion one evening in the week but that is not consistent. No form of contact is made by their father during the time he is not with him. He no longer spends anytime with my 13 y/o despite being in their life since the age of 2 which really saddens me.
I am very close to my family we speak and see each other most days but they have their families and when evenings creep up I am alone.

I always feel like I am on the side lines looking in which is incredibly isolating. Through traumatic experiences in the past I find it hard to make friends. The couple I do have again have their own families. I have zero time to myself and this means there is no hope for me to find or make any relationships.
the more lonely and isolated I feel the harder it is for me to even speak to people. As time is going on conversations are getting more awkward and my confidence it very low.

I do work part time but on my own.
I don’t know why I have sent this. I am not sure what I want to achieve from writing this. Maybe reassurance that everything will be ok, who knows….

I’m sorry you are feeling lonely. It’s tough being a single parent but even harder when you have no support from fathers. I think working on your own isnt helping. Is there any way of changing that so you can socialise more?.

What about trying to connect with single parent groups- it helps so much when you can talk to people who know how you feel.

Can your family look after your kids so you can have some time to yourself? Even going to an exercise class for an hour would be good for your well being and help confidence.

I’m sorry you feel Ike this. Good trust you’re close to your family. Speak to them about how you’re feeling. There are usually social groups that you can join or maybe a evening/fitness class? Volunteering. It can be awkward at first but people are usually friendly and welcoming x

You'll be OK @Bec2701 It's good that you have your family and are close to them. Where do you see yourself in, say, a few years' time? I always think whatever is on your mind, taking action is good, even if it's a small thing.