I don't know how to enjoy my time with him anymore

[Duka]

I truly don't even know where to begin, I don't want to post a lot of details, but I'll be happy to recieve critisim or reassurance, maybe my point of view is very narrow.
So, to start, I'm in an almost 2-year relationship, Its my FIRST relationship and we are taking things very seriously due to my culture and religion, I had to introduce him to my parents when he showed that he is very serious about me, just to be on the safe side (this alone is a whole topic)
The guy loves me (probably more than i love him) ,recently I noticed that I'm extremely irritated by him, everything he does makes me angry, he's very respectful and loving to me, its just the quality of the time we spend, we don't have much activities going on and i stopped feeling thrilled with him.
I feel like he's all the time acting dumb, making stupid noises and acting like a little kid, idk if this is something thats always been there and only recently i started to notice it, but its huge turn off to me, its literally like having a 7-year old around the house (its not even a house!!! i live in a 37m2 apartment and it kills me when i spend time with him for more than 20hours there)
And when it comes to physical appearacne, i just feel that recently im starting to notice his flaws , perhaps my estrogen level is low and thats why I cant see him as handsome as before... or its his lousy habits with food and activity, i tend to take care of myself in this aspect a lot, i eat healthy and i put a lot of effort into meals preparation, exercise, self-care...etc and he barely does any of that.... I feel like a huge part of me is telling me to stop being superficial and focus on the positivies, and i know he's a serious guy, he loves me a lot, and he respects me, and if we are in a serious situation he's 100% mature and never fails to help me.... just I have been shutting off on him recently cuz the way he behaves on the normal everyday basis (the child-like behaviors) are turning me off and making me extremely irritated... i do plan on opening this up with him but before i do, i need to know whats wrong with ME first, just to not make him feel bad about himself when i might be the one with the issues...

You sound like you’ve done off him. That’s okay! Dump and move on. You’re making it more complicated than it needs be.

*gone! Not done.

Yep you've simply gone off him. So there you have it.

Honeymoon period over. Those early months were a cloud of hormones and excitement. Now it's levelled off and you're not as compatible as you hoped.
No relationship is perfect. These things might be able to be worked through, but...
Sounds like you might feel better if you broke it off. Not everything's forever.

Nobody's fault OP it's just fizzled out. Let him go x

You are realising your differences now your loved up rose coloured glasses have fallen off. Its quite normal, some people take months, some years, but the end result is the same. Its the beginning of the end of your relationship.

Its either counselling or moving on. If you don't do either you will end up angry and frustrated.

but guys, if its "honeymoon period" is over, won't that happen again with whoever i end up with next? cuz im sure something is wrong with me, its my first relationship and we've gone thro a lot together and i don't want to end things without being 100% sure.... and im really not sure what normal looks like..

You've got the "ick" (getting irritated by him...) That's your brain saying he's not for you. It's fine and normal if its your first relationship. It's not normal to feel like that but want to have a future with him. From experience, the "ick" will just get worse, just him breathing will get to you 😂

Going forward.... What is normal?? Who knows.... Its all down to your own preferences, standards etc.

You don’t need to settle for someone just because you’re afraid you’ll get irritated by every man over time.
it doesn’t happen that way, and that’s why it’s good to date a while before marriage, because once infatuation wears off you can see clearly.

it’s true that we do have days where we need to make a conscious effort to choose our partner, but in a good situation, there’s more of a balance. There’s not an every day need to stifle so much irritation.

gaining experience can only help you, here.

I hope you let him go - and learn to let go quickly when there are red flags. Ultimately it doesn’t matter if it’s “you” or “him”; the truth is, it isn’t a fit, and there’s someone out there who will love his childish noises.

sometimes there are reasons you subconsciously are put off by someone, but your mind can only grasp the surface reason.

if your gut is telling you “ick,” then you need to end it, regardless of what your parents say.

Nothing is wrong with you. Its your subconscious saying he is not the right life partner for you. Thats the whole point of dating, its to find the right one which doesn't necessarily mean the first one (or second or third). Its to help find out who you are and what you want.

I think it depends on what his ( and your) behaviour is like overall and how you two communicate. Is it something specific that can be changed? Is he aware of it? Or is it just an in general feeling, being around him? If that makes any sense

You say you look after yourself and he doesn't. What did you mean by that?

Also, this is your first relationship, it doesn't mean you have to settle just because you've been through a lot together. And, that will be relative and your definition of a lot will change over the years.

There is no normal. It's about what works for you and your partner. What your dynamic is like. If it's not working now and you can't figure out how to make it work. It won't work.

It's OK to walk away from a relationship that isn't working for you. Better to do it now than later after you're feeling more invested. If it carries on and you aren't happy resentment and anger will grow. Not at all relationships work. Things and people change. To worry about the honeymoon period is pointless. Every relationship has one. But, once that come down is there if you're left feeling how you are, it's not worth it. At that stage you should both feel confident and comfortable around each other and be able to fully accept the others flaws. If you can't and it's an annoyance, it will get worse. Trust me.

He's not for you.
Regardless of how seriously your culture or religion takes relationships, being in one doesn't necessarily mean you should stay in it.

When you're with the right person 20 years can fly by and feel like 2 years, with the feelings you're describing rearing their ugly head. That's how you know.

Don't flog this dead horse any longer.

When people say you need to work on relationships, they don't mean bury your valid feelings and tolerate unpalatable realities.

They mean keep it fresh and don't let complacency steal your joy.