My boyfriend and I have had some minor stress due to his personal problems. He said to me he thinks I am not interested in him anymore because we don't kiss much etc. I was surprised as I thought he was the one that lost interest because whenever I have kissed him I try to use tongues and he resists. He claims he has tried to use tongues and said I don't reciprocate - I disagree.
He has had a knee injury which makes things difficult, he was off work for a few months due to the injury plus we can't really go out much as his knee hurts after an hour of walking. He has an appointment with the orthopedist in 2 weeks as he had an MRI scan so it should get resolved.
We have been going out for meals a lot and I have slacked into poor eating habits and I have put a stone on in the last 7 months which gaining weight has knocked my confidence.
I feel really pressured now to lose weight and initiate passion into our relationship. I don't like being blamed for the lack of passion as he has stopped being passionate, has gained weight too and his problems have been stressful and I have tried to support as much as I can and be positive. I haven't wanted to put pressure to have sex in case his leg gets painful as his leg can be painful a lot.
He says he loves me very much but now I feel all the pressure is on me to reignite the spark. I also have the anxiety of other women being a threat as there are a few women who would gladly ask him out if he became single and they have already tried to cross boundaries knowing he is in a relationship.