Split with ExP before Christmas. We have a 4yo and 2yo. I have 8yo Dd from previous relationship. He refuses to have set days and times and thinks he can phone whenever he wants, expects me to drop everything and take the DC to him. He usually waits until 4/5pm before contacting me, knowing they go to bed at 7.30-8pm.He has never had them for more than 4 hours and refuses to have them overnight. He agreed to take them on Thursday at 10am but never answered his phone, so I phoned his DM (He lives with her). She said he had been out drinking all night, and he was refusing to get up, but he would phone me when he gets up. Expecting me to sit about waiting all day to see if he actually phones, which he never. He wanted to see then yesterday so again I said I would drop them off at 10am but he text me at 7am to say not to drop them off at 10am as it was too early and he would not be ready for them. When is it ever too early to parent your own children? Knowing him, he had probably been up all night drinking again, and that was him just getting to bed. He only wants to see them when he has nothing better to do. His DM only wants them there 3 days a week. She complains that Ex is lazy, and there is no discipline, structure, or routine when the DC are there. They are allowed to run about and do what they want. He has spent such little time with them since we split the DC have stopped asking for him. I feel like stopping contact and telling him to go to court rather than trying to accommodate their demands. I hate having to be in contact with ExP, I want set days and times so we don't need to speak in between him seeing the DC.