Is he a player?

[chasegirl]

Been seeing a guy for a while but hadn't slept together for 3 weeks due to busy lives. He came over after work last night,arranged very last minute. He couldnt stay long long as had to pick his sister up from the airport.

While we were in bed he told me he'd 'missed this' and later texted 'Hey im home thanks for that needed it night xx'.

I've heard this kind of thing from men before who ended up being players. He was missing the sex not me wasn't he?

I mean it's a really shit phrasing but grasping at straws, could he mean he needed it from YOU and YOU only. Maybe he was missing your intimate time together.

I wouldn’t read it like that. You’ve been seeing him for a while, you hadn’t been together for three weeks and he says he ‘misses this’, and ‘I needed that’ it is shit phrasing but it’s also possibly his f’ed up way of saying he missed being with you. If all is going well and you feel safe otherwise (in this relationship) I’d not read too much into it.

Somehow I doubt he was actually rushing off to pick his sister up from the airport...

He wanted the sex…

he wasn’t popping round for a cup of tea. Is it more a FWB?

The sister story does seem a bit suspicious, why not just wait until he can at least give you his time for the night rather than being a rushed last minute plan. If he's not trying to plan a date with you rather than a quickie, I would assume thas all he wants.

I didn't think it was a FWB but maybe he thinks it is. We haven't had the talk yet

Slow down
slow down messaging
match his energy and when he asks for a meet up see what he’s suggesting
if he suggest to visit your house at circa 9pm
its a sex FWB he’s after

now nothing wrong with that !
if that’s what you want

Wouldn't want a fwb with him, like him too much 😟. He seemed genuinely interested but that is how they appear at the start

The problem with FWB is that it really does suit men more than it suits women !!!

in which case you write off as a loss and mop
up this disappointment

shit happens in dating
bit staying when you want more will only hurt you in the longer term