Holidays for those who sleep separately

[DustyLee123]

We are in separate rooms due to his snoring and acting out nightmares. I’ve no desire to share a room with him at all, but that makes it expensive for holidays, so what do others do ?

I'm the snorer in our relationship we share a bed at home but if I'm snoring he gives me a nudge and I go to the spare room. We still share a room on holiday, as you say it would be really expensive otherwise. I think you'll have to warm him that you'll need to wake him up whenever he's snoring?

Our home arrangements are similar to Yellow's.
On holiday we get a twin or triple room to allow extra space between us, and DH brings earplugs too!

Waking him when snoring didn’t work for 20+ years, hence the separate rooms now !

Book 2 rooms or a suite with a bedroom and lounge, no way you will want to get less sleep on holiday than you do at home!

You could get a villa? Might be slightly cheaper.

Or you could try and share a room and sleep on a sun lounger by the pool if you don't get much sleep.

I personally always have my own room now even on hols but yes more £

Same here. If it's something like a caravan holiday, we'll get an extra room or someone will go on the sofabed. If a hotel often we'll each go with one of the children. I literally can't sleep in the same room as him, I wear earplugs at home and can still hear his snoring from across the hall!

Yes, when we had kids on holiday with us we would go in separate rooms with a kid, but I don’t have that excuse any more.
And yes, I can still hear him from the opposite side of the house with his door shut.

Book a 2 bedroom
apartment, a suite with two separate sleeping areas or a family room with two separate areas.

Or two completely separate rooms and possibly go for less days if the costs are too high.

You don’t need an excuse of kids to book separate rooms. Just book them so you both can enjoy your hols.

Has to be a lodge or caravan or similar with a few bedrooms. I look back at photos of holidays where we shared and I look shattered.

We often hire a 2 bedroom house or apartment. Generally works out cheaper than hotel.

If we have to stay in a hotel we book two rooms and suck up the cost.

Book an apartment with 2 rooms

We either book a cottage with enough rooms for us to sleep separately or I sleep in ear plugs. Really good industry at standard ones. They're comfy enough to wear for a few days but give me earache long term, hence the separate bedrooms at home.

Air bnb with two bedrooms or at least bedroom plus sofa bed. I also use silicon earplugs so I can't hear him through the wall.

We are in the same boat. Sometimes we go for cottage/Airbnb rental so that we can have separate rooms. Other times we just suck up the cost of 2 rooms and go less frequently.
sorry no magic solutions, but much empathy!!

I’ve done the share a room and wear earplugs on holidays thing and for me it didn’t work - I was still awake and raging at 1am (and 2am, 3am, etc). Twin room made it slightly better than sharing a bed but not much.

One bed apartment with a sofa bed helps to keep the costs down a little.

It's only just got to the stage where it's become necessary but at the moment when with the kids (2 secondary age) we get 3 bed places and make sure that one of the kids' rooms has 2 single beds so I can use it, or that there's a sofa bed in a common area.

Staying just us, again, look at small 2 bed airbnbs, or a 1 bedroom place that also has a sofa bed, as we're doing for our anniversary break this year. Sometimes, on a different bed on holidays, DH doesn't snore or we're both tired after a full day so I can sleep heavily enough not to be disturbed by him - so we can stay in one room but we need the option.

It's a shame as I like staying in hotels when it's just us, but it's just not a goer right now! We've also realised that if we want overnights when visiting friends out of town, we'll probably just have to go for two Travelodge/Premier Inn rooms as the most affordable option.

The silicone earplugs sound good where are they from please?

You can get them on Amazon or from boots. I break each one in half as they're too big otherwise, just roll them into a cone shape and jam them in (they're not small enough to get stuck but they properly mould to your ear shape)

Holidays are ok - we just accept the additional cost of the extra room, otherwise we'd both be miserable. It's staying with friends or family that causes us an issue as most people don't have 2 guest rooms and I find it an embarrassing conversation to have as they assume your marriage is crap.😞

Don't go for a mobile home, not even an expensive lodge-style one - the walls are very thin. You'll hear every snore even in another bedroom. (I've been in a bedroom next to the kitchen area snd heard the kettle boiling.)