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Does anyone else's partner/significant other do this to them?

6 replies

Firemama3 · 16/04/2023 06:24

I'm a mama bear to 3 children, but with everything going the way it is, it feels like I have triple the amount of kids. My partner lately has started lashing out at me verbally and a few times it's gotten to the point where I either keep quiet and let him get it all out or I'm practically begging him to wait until the kids are asleep or in another room. We have had fights before but it's never been like this.
I feel like I spend most of the time from when I'm awake until I'm asleep in tears, on the verge of tears of walking on eggshells because I am afraid one wrong move, action or word from me will have me being belittled and screamed at and having every flaw pointed out while having any mistakes I've made in the past used against me.
I am trying so hard not to shatter everyday and fail my kids but how can I fix this or make things better for me? I'm sick of crying myself to sleep and wishing I was good enough to not be abused and treated like a piece of crap someone's stood on.

Any advice? Tips? HELP! I'm desperate 😪

OP posts:
Weatherwax13 · 16/04/2023 06:27

The only way you'll fail your kids is by staying with this abusive prick OP. Tell someone what's happening and get help to end the relationship. You need support as he sounds potentially really dangerous.

determinedtomakethiswork · 16/04/2023 06:30

I think you should contact Women's Aid. This man isn't going to change and is really damaging your family.

perfectcolourfound · 16/04/2023 07:38

Please do what's right for your children and leave this awful abusive man.

MeinKraft · 16/04/2023 07:40

No, my partner doesn't do this. If he did, he'd only do it once. By being exposed to this, your children are victims of domestic violence.

barmycatmum · 16/04/2023 07:45

:( oh that is so awful. No, that is no way to live.

I hope you can get free of him. This is abuse.

MyBelladonna · 16/04/2023 07:51

As this is a recent change in behaviour I would query the cause: mental health, drugs/ alcohol or affair.

However, the outcome for you and your children is the same. Your relationship has become toxic due to his emotionally abusive behaviour. You and your kids do not deserve this. Please, please seek help. He will erode your confidence and self worth if he carries on like this. Take care xx

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