Pregnant and just found out I've been cheated on with his ex

[GL222]

Hey all. I'm 24 weeks pregnant and recently put a post up about my partner being friendly with his ex baby mom and disregarding my feelings

So I've just found out. He's been in a relationship with her behind my back for months sleeping together and now she is pregnant
She admitted this and then he admitted it also

I feel absolutely sick to my stomach been sick all day crying non stop knowing my poor baby will feel my emotions and hurt

Please if anyone csn give advice how to get through such trauma and heartbeak in pregnancy would be appreciated

I've never felt so heartbroken in my entire life, I loved him so much and he has betrayed me and abandoned me and his unborn child for her and his other family
He promised he wouldn't ever do this and there was nothing between them

The pain is unbearable

So sorry you’re going through such turmoil at what should be a happy time
let your midwife know they can support you if they’re aware if potential stressors. Who can support you? Who will reliably to there for you. Try to take things easy, and look after your nutrition and wellbeing. He’s a cheat and has treated you appallingly. I wish you well going forward and hope yi7 have a happy healthy pregnancy. Might not seem it now but you’ll get through this in time to be a super mum

Couldn't read and run. Feel awful for you.

Please do not stay with this man. You will be an amazing mum and you can do this without him.
Have you got friends, family, support. Get yourself away from this man and independent immediately. If you live together either kick him out now or move out if you are able.
Then concentrate on yourself and the baby. Don't waste another moment of your emotion or energy on this scumbag.

You'll be ok. You will.

Thank you I need to.speak to midwife urgently as my mental state is the worst its ever been. I have family to lean on but it's the worst feeling and trying to stay strong for my unborn son😢 x

Hi @GL222 i'm so sorry you're going through this 😔 talk about it, cry, get it all out, you got this ok 💪, your baby has the most strongest Mum ❤
Sending you lots of positive vibes x

Jesus Christ, he’s a total cunt.

I couldn’t not reply to this, I am so sorry for what you’re going through. My (now ex) husband had been cheating on me throughout my second pregnancy when I had hyperemesis. I found out when our son was 4 weeks old. I didn’t have the strength to leave with a newborn and a toddler but what followed was another 9 years of cheating. Eventually I found the strength to kick him out when I confided in friends and family what I’d been going through. Their support spurred me on. Get all the support you can from wherever and whoever you can. You will get through this and you’ll be stronger for it. You deserve better, so does your baby. Good luck!

I’m so sorry.

So sorry this has happened to you.
Do you have a good support network around you? Parents /Friends ?
Speak to your midwife/ GP.
And get him out of your life.
You can do this !💐

I'm so sorry. What an absolute piece of shit. There aren't words to describe this appalling behaviour.

From experience, go it alone, it will be far easier, although I appreciate it doesn't feel that now.

My ex told me in the middle of a trauma labour with my first born, that I needed an STD test. (There was concern that I had developed an infection) his guilt came to the front as he realised the risk he had put us both in. I 'got on with life' with him there because I was terrified of going it alone. 6yrs later and with another baby, he left for this next one. Lord knows how many there were.

I wish, I had the courage to leave then ♥️

So sorry OP, I know that sickening pain. He is a cunt.

To my mind you only have one choice. To rise the fuck above that pair of arseholes. Be fabulous. Be dignified. Grey rock. I promise you they won’t have a rosy future, she’ll never feel secure. He’ll cheat. You won’t care though as you’ll have moved on.

Turn to friends and family for support and make the best life for you and your little one.

Better things lie ahead OP. xx

Thanks everyone I have support off family and friends I will ring midwife for urgent mental health help tomorrow. Its a pain that is taking over me but need ti try and get up x

He's saying he loves us both. And thays why he's done it. Honestly so twisted I've blocked him for now. I know my worth and I deserve better

@GL222 he may well do- but that option wasn't on the table from you for him to enjoy. I'm sure you will be an amazing mum- him- doesn't deserve someone as lovely as you

I know my worth and I deserve better ⬅️YES get that laminated and printed. say it loudly. Its succinct and It’s true👍

You do not need his shite or his yea but no but whiny excuses. He is an inadequate duplicitous man.

Just seen this thank you so much x

Wishing you all the best⭐️