Friendship

[Macy34]

I’ve been friends with this woman for 9years now.
I texted her a few weeks ago to ask how things were and when would she be free for a meet up. I got a reply but never replied to the part where I asked when she could meet up. She sent me a selfie of her and a new friend (they’d gone away for a weekend ) I don’t know know if I should say something or leave it I just feel really let down.
Everything is always on her terms I’m tired of it

It's shitty of her not to let you know if she's free to meet up when you text her a few weeks ago. Apart from sending the selfie, what other communication has there been, if any?
How often are you usually in touch or get to meet up?
Do you have other friends around you?
As you say, you're tired of it always being her way, so you've got to weigh up the pros and cons of trying to maintain the friendship

I feel like it’s very one sided unless she needs me.

It sounds like a poor friendship OP. I have posted about something similar. I think it's time to broaden your friendship horizons as this lady perhaps has other priorities.

Yes dont depend on her. I felt that too friends flaky not commiting. I dont want spend my life chasing people. I joined new things.

Sounds silly but I don’t know how to meet new people. I wfh so have no work colleagues and have a really busy home life

So, you're solely reliant on her for friendship and a social life?
I know it's incredibly hard to make new friends after a certain age. And of course WFH further restricts those possibilities.
Do you work FT? Do you have a partner? Do you have DC? Do you have any other support network as in family and friends?

She answered you. She's not bothered about meeting up and has no respect to you to say yes or no. She's a coward and keeping you just in case or because she has no heart to officially end it.

Do you like hobbies running walking. My friend in a choir. I find you have put yourself out there..... I walk but we met for cuppa last week. Gets me out house