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Macy34 · 15/04/2023 17:00

My husband loves entertaining at our home which we’ve done over the years. I prefer to see my friends on a girls night out.
Anyway, I’m working full time doing all the housework and the childcare (16,12 and 7 year old) I don’t feel like entertaining at the weekend I want to relax ! I work Saturday as well and only have Sunday off. He works long hours
Last Saturday I got back at 3 and he announced he’d invited someone for a late lunch that day !!! I was sick all week and still went in to work so I was really annoyed (a text would have nice just to let me know) and ended up taking myself off to bed.
Last night he announced he’s invited an acquaintance and girlfriend over next weekend although I’ve told him I would like to know before he invites people over if I need to entertain which I don’t think is a lot to ask for. I’m tired of him imposing things on me rather than asking
AIBU ? Thanks for reading

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Eggseggseverywhere · 15/04/2023 17:03

No law says you have to even be home...
Let him entertain his mates..

HarrietStyles · 15/04/2023 17:04

If he is inviting guests over without checking with you first, then he needs to do the majority of the prep work in advance, catering and tidying up after. I love entertaining friends/family at our home but my husband isn’t bothered about it - so because I want to invite people over, I do all the work to make it happen. Sometimes husband helps out, but I wouldn't expect it if it’s my friends coming and for my personal enjoyment.

Skankylanky · 15/04/2023 17:06

Does he expect you to do anything?

I'd be absolutely furious.

Skybluepinky · 15/04/2023 17:14

Go stay at a friends and leave him to it.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 15/04/2023 17:17

Why are you doing all of the housework and childcare when you both work full time?

Heroicallyfound · 15/04/2023 17:19

Of course he should ask you first. Your home is a shared space so he needs to be considerate and aware that you’re going to be inconvenienced when there’s other people in the house.

Tell him so, and tell him he needs to rearrange for a date that suits both of you. Stick to your guns and he will soon learn. You don’t have to be trampled on like this.

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Macy34 · 15/04/2023 17:21

By the time he gets in at night he won’t do anything round the house.

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Aquamarine1029 · 15/04/2023 17:22

Anyway, I’m working full time doing all the housework and the childcare (16,12 and 7 year old)

Why in the fuck are you allowing this nonsense? Why isn't he doing his fair share? That's the real problem here and it's bloody outrageous.

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Macy34 · 15/04/2023 17:25

I suppose because he comes between 7and 8 he gets annoyed if I ask him to do anything

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Aquamarine1029 · 15/04/2023 17:25

Macy34 · 15/04/2023 17:21

By the time he gets in at night he won’t do anything round the house.

Unless he works 24/7, he has no excuse.

Dery · 15/04/2023 17:26

He sounds like a selfish git.

TooMinty · 15/04/2023 17:26

If you are both working full time then he needs to do half of the housework and childcare. If he invites guests round then he can entertain them and do any catering.

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Macy34 · 15/04/2023 17:27

For info my son was off school 2 days last week and I thought he was at work with my husband he never thought of asking /telling me he spent 2 afternoons with his director’s children at their home !!! I only found out because my son told me. I didn’t even bring it up because I’m tired of him telling me I’m being unreasonable

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