How would you feel about these comments?

[ADHDadvice]

So this isn't a 'should I kick off' message, just genuinely trying to understand how other people would feel.

I have a medical condition that I have to take daily medication for and see a consultant on a monthly basis. I'm currently on a new set of drugs which has made me put on a lot of weight over the last 12 months or so. I'm usually a healthy BMI.

I'm now overweight. Holidays have been hard etc but if I don't continue with trying out this drug, my condition could get worse or I'd have to change meds again which is a pain.

My Mum knows all this. Everytime we meet up she finds some way to tell me that my weight isn't my fault, it's definitely down to the meds. She also tells other people (even random acquaintances in shops) and I feel like she's embarrassed of me and trying to 'justify' my weight.

On the other hand, she's not wrong, I am overweight. I think she thinks she's doing a nice thing by explaining to me and everyone else that I'm not fat because of something I do/did.

Would this bother you?

Oops. Hit reply too soon.
… trying to protect you, projecting how she would feel, going about it in a very clumsy way.

do tell her, If you don’t want her to! If it makes you feel bad, tell her to stop. She really shouldn’t be telling people you’re on meds- that would bother me a lot, it’s private!

Well said! Express the boundary and then enforce it If necessary, yes!