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kellybellypo · 14/04/2023 19:32

I’m really struggling with reading the situation and I don’t want to make a massive error in judgement or for it to all go wrong AGAIN!! So there’s this woman we’ve know each other about 5 months maybe 🤔 but have only actually met up three times, 🫣 so one of those times was purely to train the dogs 🫣 I’ve been round to her house twice for evenings of drinks, food etc and it’s been great! We text a fair bit… she’s an incredibly busy woman she works a lot and goes all over Europe and is very busy so very independent, the last probably 4 weeks have been noticeably different to me anyway… so on the last time I went to her house I kinda felt something different… she opened up a lot about her past which was pretty horrendous in places 😢 we had a bit of physical contact more than previous like when she was telling me about these things I reached out for her hand and she took it.. and then when I left her garden is quite dark and she took my hand and instead of letting go when I was down the steps she kept hold until the car.. after we’ve met up we don’t necessarily talk every day and had never ever spoken on the phone until she rang me out of the blue a few weeks ago we were on the phone for 30 mins. Then yesterday she rang me again randomly and we were on the phone for 1 hour and 30 mins. She’s currently working in Romania for a few weeks and she asked me to go with her, unfortunately I couldn’t get the time off work but she said when she’s home she wants to go on a road trip together for a few days… ….she’s recently out of a long term relationship well sort of 6 months ago or so… Does she like me? Or is she just being friendly? How the hell is one supposed to know? I’ve found myself hung up on her every word and analysing everything which annoys me so bad!!!! I also don’t want to mention anything to her because I don’t want to make anything awkward or ruin the friendship!!! Been there done that!!! Hate that my emotions are so up and down depending on her messages!!! Why am I like this?! Help!!! 🤣🤣🙏🙏

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123andgo · 14/04/2023 19:53

I am assuming you’re a woman by your username, is that correct? And that you have been attracted to women but misread the situation in the past. If you were a man I would have totally said yes. But if you’re a woman it could be she is opening up to a potential new friend. It’s tricky, I did message an openly gay woman in the past, me being heterosexual and it all lead to multiple messages every single day. I realised a had a crush on her and was so sure she had one on me too. It all went bonkers. When we had a talk about it a year later she said she hadn’t felt that way about me. Despite her efforts to reignite the friendship I decided it was best to avoid.
So my advice is tread carefully. If a few messages here and there coupled with some phone calls send your emotions on a rollercoaster, keep away. It’s not worth it. Been there done that.

kellybellypo · 14/04/2023 20:31

I am a woman yes... we are both openly gay though. Both been in relationships with other women before.

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