I have just had a lightbulb moment and realised that my last relationship was abusive and I was with a covert narcissist.
I have really struggled to make sense of the situation for the past 3 months since he abruptly ended our relationship and really wanted him back. I felt I should have been further forward in my healing journey. But after 2 sessions of therapy I have had the lightbulb moment I needed.
Abuse is abuse and it doesn't have to be physical. Small scale manipulation can also create a trauma bond meaning that it is challenging to let go, as I have discovered.
I am sure there will be more challenges ahead of me but I am delighted to have made this breakthrough. I guess I just wanted to post some encouragement to others that although it feels impossible at times, these things can hit you when you least expect it and you can get clarity.