Am so over the deification of the OW

[PopGoesTheProsecco]

Apparently the OW has had to go to bed early tonight because of the wonderful day she’s given DD2 on her birthday.

ExH left for the OW when our children were 6, 2 and 14wks. He was out with the OW on DD3’s due date. Since the split they’ve had the kids EOW and half the holidays.

I have no issue with the OW as my ExH was an abusive arse. But his constant bigging up of what she does with the kids is beginning to grate. They literally have (most of) the kids four days a month. DD1 usually refuses to go.

Sorry, just need to vent. I’m the one who works full time but organises sleepovers, hobbies and activities that the kids want to do and kind of supervises homework. And they get to do fun stuff four days a month which she’s sainted for!

OP

He is justifying his behaviour and he is trying to convince both himself and you that everything has turned out for the best. FFS!
Yeah his best!

You need to not care ( or fake not caring until it happens).

Have smug condescending responses ready for his next assault. I am sure the you'll get great replies here.

One reply to give him next time he goes off on one -
Smile smugly and say "Good for you!" Really dry it out and then turn you back on him, busy yourself with something- it will piss him off I guarantee and if he tries to through it back at you - Gaslight him - "Don't know what you mean?" smile and walk away - you need to empower yourself and be ready for his shitty behaviour until you no longer care - I know its easier said than done when you are doing the loins share -

but remember he's her problem now!

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As for this post, eventually the hurt will fade away. Nothing lasts forever. Hold your head high & retain your well deserved dignity.