Partner has secret Debts!!

[Mixedracequeen13]

Hi all!
okay so I went on my partners emails I know I should of , but he has been acting very touchy and moody so I investigated , Anyway while I was on there I seen in the archived messages loads of emails saying he had received pay day loans for thousands !! And that he hasn’t paid back his credit card and that he owes like thousands to another card !
i don’t know what to do he will know I’ve been snooping if I say I know about the Debts! We have a house and a daughter I’m worried he’s going to keep getting more debts and we will loose our house!!! Please help how can I I’m around this situation !

Who pays the mortgage has nothing to do with Tenants in Common.
You need to protect your half. In fact, everyone needs to protect their half of a house. Not only from debt, but from things like needing to pay for care.

I am in a similar situation as you. My partner had debts and didn’t tell me. It’s all come to light now through my snooping! It’s a sad situation when they can’t be honest with you. I feel thought that he was embarrassed by it. You do need to talk to him somehow. Try to get him to tell you about his debts. Also, he maybe worried about the situation he has got himself
into and a problem shared is a problem
halved! I hope people are kinder to you on this subject on here than what they were to me when I put my issue on her about my partners debts. Remember you know him better than anyone else and I hope you can work through it together 🥰