I feel like we are drifting apart

[Lovelearn]

Hi, I posted here a few years ago about the slow decline in our sex life with my DW losing interest in me both sexually and just in general.

Years on the situation is worse. I feel she takes every opportunity to avoid being together as a family. I look after children one week during holidays in our caravan, she takes the next etc. She has arranged family days out but somehow I end up going on my own with the children. She goes to bed early while I put them to bed in the week then wakes up early and gets out of bed and goes downstairs without even looking my way.

If I talk to her about my desire to be closer, she assures me all is fine it's just the children get priority but I can't help feel physical contact once every 6 to 8 weeks means we are missing out on what should be great years together watching our fantastic children grow. I feel I was the safe choice for a father to them as she knows I will never leave her or cheat.

The way I feel is I would rather accept a sexless touchless marriage that burn with hope. I guess I would like to know if this happens and it works for some people? She gets bored easily and if she is bored of me should I offer her an open marriage to see if she takes it?

Hi OP. I'm sorry things aren't great. You say you've spoken to your DW and she says everything is fine. What is your response to that? It may be fine to her, but do you tell her it's not fine with you? Do you explain your feelings?

In response to your question about open marriages..is that what you want? Would that help you, in so much as you'd be sexually satisfied but remain within your marriage or are you considering her feelings there? I think, in order to have an open marriage your relationship has to be in a very specific place. Strong. And I'm not sure from what you're said that your relationship is there.
I think you're better off with counselling, if that's an option. Lay your cards on the table. Explain that your needs aren't being met. Take it from there.

She gets bored easily and if she is bored of me should I offer her an open marriage to see if she takes it

Should you, according to what rules/guidelines? Who is in charge of your behaviour and your decisions?

If you really want to keep the marriage going I would insist on marriage counselling. It seems very cold that she doesn't even look at you.

"is that what you want?"

No, I just want my wife who adored me when we got together. I sometimes think of extra marital sex when frustrated but would never go there

Fair play to you for accepting your lot! If she knows you will never leave or cheat she can just behave exactly as she likes and get away with it. In the nicest way you could do with growing a pair x

I've been married for 15 years now together for 18 since I was 17 im now 34 he's 43 have 3 girls that don't live with us anymore been through everything from homelessness to drug use to family deaths u name it we have survived it main thing always a problem is lack of intimacy affection just straight ignoring me we barely say 5 words to each other he says its cuz were around each other all the time nothing to talk about but even when were watching TV or something simple where he could just put his arm on me or something he sits there if I try to lay by or on him he gets up starts doing something else im lonely and cry everyday now when I'm sitting in house he outside again doing God knows what his schedule is work comes home goes outside for rest of day comes in and immediately falls asleep watching TV help what can I do