I just wanted to tell you that if you had the strength to leave abuse and survive and are doing your best you are bloody amazing!!

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If you have survived abuse and come onto these forums to help others then you are really bloody amazing. Thank you.

There are bad people but there are also good people.

I haven't but have been let down. I still believe that people are essentially good. Sending strength to everyone.

Thanks! 2 years later and I’m still nowhere near over it. He’s ruined my mental health, I binge/over eat and have gone from a size 8 to a 12 because of it. I hate him.

but I am free, life is not dangerous anymore and I always encourage others to leave abusive partners

I’m still healing but each day is easier. Thanks for the boost OP!

Yes, well done everyone! xx I had a lover who was sexually coercive/manipulative- eventually I realized with the help of MN vipers and blocked him on everything. Then I did the Freedom Programme. I've had exes be somewhat abusive but nothing compared to what many other women endure .

You're all awesome. x

He’s ruined my mental health, I binge/over eat and have gone from a size 8 to a 12 because of it

@Temporaryname158 That's not much really, I'm sure you'll eventually find a balance. There are a lot of techniques and resources you can try. I'm on the same journey with food, but we can do it. I've had various therapies but they didn't really work for food.

Practical stuff like eating higher volume and more protein, and spending my money on other things so I don't have any extra money to hand to buy rubbish helps me, but I'm single with no kids so can have a bit more control over my environment than most women. I can't blame overeating on my mental health really, I just get cravings and food is delicious. I do have a history of eating issues though.

If you feel your food issues are due to trauma then EMDR is the best for that- it's helped me in a lot of ways, would recommend. The NHS offer it now, too.

Thanks OP.
20 years ago, 21 nearly, healed mostly, have the odd moments of fear but not much.
Married to a good man for 12 year and I can honestly say I am truly happy.
Didn't date for 5 years and worked hard on my mental and physical health, I am so glad I invested that time or I wouldn't be where I am now.
Took 6 years in totally to leave but I did it in the end.

I'm trying to find the courage. He's amped his up, today he told me to delete all my social media. Sounds silly, but it's all I have to myself, a quick scroll on fb. My life revolved around the kids and him clearly. feel very tired.